[lapland1]

I have been with my partner on and off for 4 years . He is a heroin addict a alcoholic and a has a gambling problem also. There is no love in the physical way very rare he even kisses me . His sleep is all over the place . Sometimes I feel like taking my own life . Then I think of my daughter and grandaughter. Other days arnt as bad I keep myself busy with work mostly . I go around my daughter’s house on my own as she will not allow him in it . I’ve tried leaving several times even went to Australia but always end up coming back. I do love him I know there’s good in there somewhere and the person I love . I’ve tried getting him into places to help him he tries n gives up . He’s been in rehab so many times failing . I’ve got him working self employed in the hope this will help but still manages to use . I pray also everyday maybe I just have to keep quiet n carry on .

[danman83]

Hey there, hope you are OK, don’t be thinking about taking your own life just think of the positives with your daughter. It’s not you with the problem. I’m sorry to say this but if your thinking this it’s best for you to move on ASAP and leave him to it no matter how much you love him. Let him deal with his own recovery. I’m 7 weeks clean now from coke and I have decided to join CA and that’s working for me so far. Has he not thought about joining?

You are right there is good in him, and it is a disease that takes over, it’s a vicious circle, and he probably does want to quit and hate himself for it. It’s just a horrible disease and addiction.

But if your thinking about ending it, you really need to start thinking of yourself. You have a daughter and a granddaughter who need you. Get back to Australia for a year or summat. I know I would do that lol. Hope this helps. Stay strong

[lapland1]

Thankyou for your reply so good to hear that you’ve been clean for 7 weeks or so now . Gives me hope for him im feeling more positive today . Think when you let it out you feel better . Got some lovely friends too one I saw today she listened which helped alot . He’s out working today im hoping the more work he gets hel have self worth and less time to do drugs . Im Not going to give up in gonna keep praying n helping being kind it could be me and I wouldn’t want him to give up in me . Thankyou for your kind words ????

[danman83]

Well thats great aswell. Just don’t beat yourself up about it. I imagine it is hard for you. I’ve seen what it has done to my gf, so I know it’s stressful.

Does he want to quit? What is he doing to quit?

I do lots of things that help me. I listen to addiction recovery stories on you tube and podcast. I’ve took up reading,excersise and just other little things. I joined CA anonymous 7 week ago and I’ve been clean since and I got a sponsor. I’ve never felt stronger and happier but I still get urges but I just speak to my sponsor.

It will take time and he just needs to keep trying and not give into it.

[icarus-trust]

Hi

I’m so sorry to read your post and see how desperate you are about your husband’s addictions. I wonder if you have seen your doctor or talked to anyone like Samaritans about how it makes you feel.

Please get in touch with us at Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides help for people dealing with addiction in their family as we know how hard that can be. We have trained and experienced Family Friends who would listen to you and help you find a way ahead. They would be able to let you know what other support is available for you and your husband.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the best and keep strong.

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