[rani123]

He is trying to make a change so I think you should give him a chance

[eml1820]

Thank you for taking the time to read my story and for replying to me

[huddle]

If you feel you do have a future with this man then go for it but I would advise you to take things slowly. Sadly he will need to ‘prove’ to you that he has turned his life around but, as much I am sure you love him, it will take time for him to regain your trust. His family are being a little unfair. I was unaware of the level my son had sank to with his drug taking. Addicts are particularly clever in hiding their addiction and lies, deceit and camouflage become an easy exercise as the addiction takes a grip. Addicts always hurt the ones they love. I wish you both every happiness for the future. X

[eml1820]

Thank you for replying to me, I completely agree with you. It will be at a very slow pace and I am still very wary. We are just taking it slowly and supporting each other at the moment. His family have been very difficult and they often ignore me in the street. I’m sorry to hear you have been through this with your son. They are definitely great at hiding things too. Thank you so much, I hope your son turns his life around too. I wish you all the happiness also, take care x

[trainer28]

Hi,

I am sorry you are in this very confusing situation. On the one hand, it is great that his family are involved with him and his recovery, on the other hand, I couldn’t deal with that much interference.

As a person who has children and a whole life with an addict, my biased opinion would be to walk away now whilst it’s just you who has been hurt. Unfortunately it is harder to walk away once you have children with someone. One of the major issues is worrying about the children when they’re with the addict and you’re not there.

I do believe in second chances and that people can change but in your case where you are completely free, I would walk away for your own sanity.

Good luck with whatever you choose to do x

[eml1820]

Thank you for getting back to me. I’m sorry to hear you have been through something similar too. It isn’t a nice situation for anyone to go through and I completely understand how hard it must have been with children. I’m just taking it a day at a time, I’m not sure what the future holds but at the moment we just are friends x

[trainer28]

I wish you both the best x

[icarus-trust]

Hi there,

I can see that you have some very hard decisions to make about the way ahead. I’m glad that you are getting support from the blog, but if you would like more help you may want to contact us at The Icarus Trust.

We are a charity that provides support for people going through what you are, trying to live with the impact of a loved one’s addiction.

We have trained and experienced people you could talk with that might help you if you get in touch, and we can also let you know what other help is available in your area.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

Wishing you all the best.

[quetalkim]

His family sound so in denial. Like it is your fault. I am 4 years in with a heroin and crack addict. I’ve tried to split up with him so many times but he charms his way back in with false promises. I cannot wait to be in your situation soon – FREE. Please listen to your body. It’s stress free. You can sleep at night. You don’t have his mental health, depth and depression affecting your health. Please give me an update if you can.

[daisy12]

He’s making a real change and not many people do so I’d say give him a chance but make sure you set boundaries and keep well yourself!

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