[laylab1]

I am so sorry to hear your story. All I can say is you need to start taking care of yourself and your kids. He will drain you and drive you mad. How can you forgive affair, pills, lies? You can’t, all you can do is move forward but decide do you want to move forward with him or with out him. Unless he wants to quit (and doesn’t sound like he does) he seems to just move to another drug of choice, nothing you can do. If you read other stories you will see unless they want to change there is nothing you or anyone can do. Maybe once he hits rock bottom, but even that has its basement.

My advice would be to seek support (family, friends, groups) for yourself and and your kids ASAP, because for you it will just get worse as time progresses and your self esteem and mental health will suffer.

[worried5]

Thank you so much for your reply. I know I am kicking myself really because I am not this kind of person who just sits and takes the crap like this, I’m normally a very independent woman who holds her own, I’ve hit the floor with this situation.

Think like most out there I’m still in complete denial that this has actually happened! He refuses to talk about it just carries on day to day as if life is normal!

And it’s far from in my mind. But I’m so occupied with the kids, schooling, my business and trying to still find the will to get through another day that I have no energy left, I end up exhausted and then thinking outside the box and making matters worse in my head.

I did call an advice line yesterday the lady I spoke with gave me very similar advice to basically ignore him and his ways and concentrate on me and the children. Make us happy and let him soul destroy himself without taking me with him. Just got to find that oomph to turn that thought into practice.

Thank you again for replying, and taking the time to give me some friendly advice x

[guardians]

Contact FamAnon for support. They are very helpful.

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