[icarus-trust]

Hi,

Thank you for posting. I’m so sorry that you are going through such a hard time, especially with a fairly new baby. That must be hard for you emotionally, not having the support as well as the additional financial problems your husband’s drinking has caused.

I work for a charity called Icarus Trust. We are there to provide support for people like you who are living with the affect of a partner’s addiction. if you contact us we can offer you one of our trained and experienced people that you could talk with. They would understand what you’re coping with and that might help you to find a way forward.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

Hoping that this will help.

All the best to you.

[summer83]

Hi MaguMum,

I am in a similar situation myself, my husband is addicted to cocaine and alcohol. The lies are unbearable as you really do question every single thing they say in the end. My husband is about to go into rehab for the 3rd time and although I’ve consistently supported him so far I am now at breaking point.

You have to ask yourself is this the life you really want? You spend so long concentrating on them on and what they need to be happy/to be well you forget yourself in the process. You stick by them as you have faith they will get well and you married him because he’s a great person and you were happy before. But you do also need to start thinking about your future and happiness, you deserve a wonderful life to.

It will take a lot of bravery to break the cycle but I’m not sure for me I’ll ever regain the trust that should be there in a marriage.

Do you ever also feel resentful towards them? But then you feel like a terrible person for feeling that way? I know I do!

There are other people out there who are going though similar experiences so never feel alone x

[elizabethl]

Hi Magumum,

I am in a similar situation as yourself. My husband lies to me all the time even when the bottle of alcohol is in front of us.

I try to remember that it is not me and he is not trying to hurt me but I do know that I don’t want to live with this forever.

How much can one person deal with? Is it ok to be lied to and hurt because of this illness? What will be more painful, staying or leaving? I ask myself these questions a lot.

I really don’t know the answers but would like you to know you are not alone.

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