[SaoirseJS]

Hey there,

your story really resonates. When they are sober, you know in your heart that they wouldn’t ever cheat. The love was/is pure. But you don’t deserve to be cheated on full stop. I know it’s his illness, but you don’t deserve to sit there wondering when/if it might happen again. I don’t have much advice, but also keen to see other peoples responses to you, I guess for a bit of hope for you and I. I went back several times to a cheating addict, and it happened again and again. I know it’s the drugs really, but that doesn’t mean he could stop himself doing it in the future. I think you are doing great with the no contact, I bet it’s killing him as much as you. Take some time to heal with the hurt he has caused, give him his space to show he’s actively recovering, then see where you are in a few months. We are only on this planet for a short time though, please don’t go back if there’s even a slight feeling that he might do it again.

wishing you both health and happiness, hope you both get the outcome you desire x

[Udhfrz5668]

Dear SaoirseJS,

thank you so much for commenting on my post. Not sure why it was posted with that gibberish at the start.

It is just SO strange! Would have never thought that happening. Thank you for your kind words. They did helped me.

He never cheated on girlfriends in the past (before his addiction), I do believe him there. And he was the one who told me and he was always honest about any relapse. He owned up to it whole heartedly. Which gives me a bit of hope for some future (maybe in a year?). But it depends what the drug will still do to him in the meantime….

When I read the stories here from other partner of cocaine addicts, I dont think it will be a good idea to get back together. Lots of heartache.

How was it with you? Did he seem honest to you as well?

Thank you soooo much for your kind reply!!!!

I never dealt with addiction before this. Read all about it, but reading and living are entirely different things.

 

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