[the-bard]

Hey Charlotte stay strong, you have gone above and beyond with the help, love and support you have shown your mum. Sadly, there is not much you can do for her. Alcoholics have to change because they want to and not because of what anyone else wants. Unless your mum decides to get help then she will carry on drinking. Sometimes the only time they stop is when they hit rock bottom and sometimes they don’t, which is a sad fact of life. This may be hard for you or your family to see or accept however it’s the only time she will seek out help. I watched a short film from a recovering alcoholic who explained his journey and said exactly the same as i have posted that until he hit the bottom he had no desire to change his behaviour even though he knew how much hurt and pain he was causing his family. Showing tough love is difficult, however if you cover for her or shield her then she cannot face the consequences of her behaviour.

Remember the most important person in this is you. You need to focus on yourself and your children and not her or her drinking, as the only person you can change is yourself. By doing this it will help you cope better and improve your life as you can start to enjoy yourself more and focus on the positives. I won’t say this will be easy, it won’t, and you’ll have good and bad days emotionally, however if you stay strong it will get better for you over time.

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