[hox]

My sister is an alcoholic. She used to blame anyone but herself for drinking anything that she could get her hands on. Her husband, her friends, me if I argued with her in fact any body.

She used to say she hadn’t got a problem and alcohol services were of no help what so ever. She could not hold down any job as she couldn’t cope.

Only her husband making her leave the marital home worked. After losing everything, no husband, no family. no home. no money, no car just a bin bag full of clothes did she turn the corner.

AA is the only thing that worked, she’s had a few relapses buy feels much better without the drink.

You have gone above and beyond with your son, and have been supportive but we can only take so much. It’s his choice to drink and only he can stop. Like in my sisters case she had to chose in the end and chose wisely.

I wish you well.

[carolynmil0]

Hox,

Thank you so very much for your warm and encouraging words. It makes my heart lighter as I try to navigate these very difficult waters. I have closed the door to my financial assistance and will only give him food (not groceries because he might sell those), but sandwiches so that he can eat. On so many levels it is rather pathetic because he has had so many opportunities and self-sabotages every one.

I needed so badly to connect with someone that could share some wisdom and guidance on how to proceed. Was beginning to feel like I was alone. I have a strong family and they have always been there for my son, but have the same concerns: that he will try to take me down with him. And, he (my son) is unwilling to seek help (even with my assistance).

Grateful…..

[hox]

You are not alone.

I think you are doing the right thing where food is concerned. Drink comes first.

My sister was the same regarding jobs. She could get them even though she was drinking, she hid it well. But eventually she wouldn’t be able to cope and the job would be lost.

It took years to come to this stage though, as she would deny she had a problem.

[carolynmil0]

Hox,

Thank you so very much for your warm and encouraging words. It makes my heart lighter as I try to navigate these very difficult waters. I have closed the door to my financial assistance and will only give him food (not groceries because he might sell those), but sandwiches so that he can eat. On so many levels it is rather pathetic because he has had so many opportunities and self-sabotages every one.

I needed so badly to connect with someone that could share some wisdom and guidance on how to proceed. Was beginning to feel like I was alone. I have a strong family and they have always been there for my son, but have the same concerns: that he will try to take me down with him. And, he (my son) is unwilling to seek help (even with my assistance).

Grateful…..

[icarus-trust]

Hi Carolyn,

You have been an amazing mum to your son and it must be so hard to see the impact his drinking has on him and you!

I’m so glad that you have a supportive family around you and glad that you are using this blog as everyone is so supportive on here.

If you feel it would be helpful to talk with us at The Icarus Trust please contact us. We are a charity that supports people that are going through similar situations to yourself and we have trained and experienced people you could talk with.

You can contact The Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the best to you.

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