[ava123]

Hello,

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I am going through the exact same with my brother who is not willing to follow through with any help or stick to anything. My brother is in a lot o debt too which we have been paying and now drug dealers are threatening us. My advice would be run he won’t change anytime soon I know you love him but you need to put yourself first and shouldn’t let someone treat you like that. Unless he is willing to get help then there’s no point in you being there for him and ruining your own life as it will only get worse as cocaine is the devil. This is the harsh reality 🙁 we’ve been living this nightmare for almost two years and are no further forward xx

[amy1]

Hi,

Thank you for responding!! I’m sorry you’re going through the same with your brother, it’s so hard, I just wish they could see how much we care and what it’s doing to us and how much it’s ruining them!????

I know I should run and that’s what I keep telling myself to do, and I know that if one of my friends was relaying this to me i’d be telling them to run too!! I just can’t bring myself to do it.

I’m so so desperate for him to just try and cut back/reach out for help, anything!!

I know I’m living in a dream world thinking it’s going to get better, I just wish I had a magic wand or something ????xx

[bluestar]

Hi Amy1 – sorry to hear what you’re going through. My partner of 6 years recently broke up with me – I think it’s over cocaine though he would just keep saying that he loves me but he can’t be a partner right now and he doesn’t know what he wants. But when we were together, I remember asking myself the same thing (and sometimes asking him) – why would he want to spend all night gaming with his friends and not come home (and have to sleep almost the whole day the next day so there goes our weekend), instead of spending a nice evening with me. I then learned that all those long gaming nights involve using cocaine. It probably started off recreationally like that and then ended up being way worse now. It’s horrible, and until today, I still can’t really accept that our relationship ended this way. Just wanted to share my own story, hopefully that helps you feel that you’re not alone. Sorry I don’t have a solution or advice for you (I too wish I have a magic wand), but this forum has given me much comfort, and I hope you find some here too.

Take care XX

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