[susiem]

My daughter – let’s call her Penny – is addicted to crack cocaine. She’s in her early 30’s and has been using cocaine since she was 17 but has moved onto crack in the last couple of years. To make things worse she is physically disabled and confined to a wheelchair. She has also had mental health problems – chronic depression and bipolar…..it’s impossible to know whether these have been caused by drugs or whether she takes drugs as a way of self medicating because of these issues…..which came first the chicken or the egg?! I guess it’s irrelevant – it’s where we are now that matters. I am at the end of my tether with trying to help her – I manage her money to ensure her bills and rent are paid and what she’s left with just goes on crack but it’s never enough! I’ve tried all ways – drip feeding her so much a day, giving her it in weekly amounts etc but it’s never enough – she constantly puts me under pressure to lend her more – making up emergency’s of one kind or another or just making me feel sorry for her or guilt tripping me. She took an overdose a few weeks ago saying she wanted to die and to be honest I can understand why! I have even contemplated us both killing ourselves together but I know this is not the answer – I have another daughter who has 5 lovely children so I couldn’t do that to them. I am truly struggling though and in real need of some support. Hopefully this forum will help a little. Thank you for reading my story.

[danman83]

Hi susie hope you are ok. I guess but i could be wrong, the crack now is some sort of escapeism fron the wheelchair and then its back to normal on the comedown. Its just going to be a vicicous circle for her.

Where is she getting the crack from?

I dont mean to be rude, but she cant be going far if shes in a wheelchair. Im only saying this is because i guess it would be easier to cut off her contacts in getting it.

So delete all dealers nums out her phone. If any dealers bring it to her tell them to stop.

But the main thing is.. she has to want to stop herself. Her mental state is just going to get worse taking that, while confined to a wheel chair. I dont blame her wanting to end it.

Watch louise clarke on you tube on crack cocaine part 123 she helps addicts and knows her stuff and her vids will help alot.

Does you daughter want to quit? Is she in the house on her own alot?

[susiem]

Hi Dan – she does get it delivered but I can’t do much about it…..she’s an adult so I can’t really go in her phone and delete numbers unfortunately and I never see them to warn them off…..she lives separately from me. Like you say she needs to want to stop herself…..I know nothing I can do can force that. Sadly. Thank you for the recommendation re video I will take a look ????

[susiem]

Yes she sometimes is on her own a lot though at the moment she seems to be going to visit a friend more.

[danman83]

To be honest, she has to want to quit herself or there is not much you can do im afraid. I bet it is hard for her a lot. I think she just needs reasurance even tho she is stuck in a wheelchair, the drugs will just make her worse and more depressed.

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