[bluebudedog]

My daughter is 34 and her life is a mess. I have just bailed her out financially again .but this must be the last time. How do I say no when her dealer threatens her .

[jaynhissay]

Hi there blue

I’m sorry to hear of the struggles your facing currently. There is lots of mum’s in the same situation on this forum.

I find myself on the other side, I too am 34 and an addict. In answer to your question from my own experiences of active addiction and being bailed out by my mum on countless occasions you have to refuse to keep paying her drug debt because if she knows there is someone who is going to pay it is like a green light for an addict. Especially someone who can be manipulated emotionally. I know that sounds horrible but it’s the reality. At times during my using I would say I was being threatened and that I needed money to pay a debt but I really needed the money to pay for that days drugs. It’s shameful behaviour but addiction is a changer of everything it comes into contact with

[dre80]

can you explain to me please, how was the use? did you use a line or how many in a night, after buying? and then how you fell after. I’m with a boy who uses it says 7 years, I think even more. I wanted to understand what happens to him when he uses, and after. He was after cocaine this Saturday night after 2 weeks without her. He is taking Amato and Desve, to try to stop, but because the partner bought it, he is fooling himself that he needs to stop. He has access to money, uses an allowance that his father sends and doesn’t know anything. His nose makes a bad noise when sleeping, I already warned him, his body has spasms sleeping, he feels very hot, very thirsty, and always tired when at my house. I never saw him using it. One day he slept on the couch, his brain shut down after a week’s use, and he didn’t opened the company…… Partner fought a lot and he went after a doctor and medicine. Not because he wanted to. He just speak tha he need to stop, … needs to stop. Make a speech.

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