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So me and my ex boyfriend have been together for 3 years , just moved into our first house 7 months ago and been engaged 4 months.
He broke up with me last Saturday and it’s killing me I have moved back to my parents I miss my partner and my dogs.i really want him back because he is the most caring loving guy when he’s off drugs .
He has had cocaine problems now for some years but since moving into our house he was getting better and I had him going to rehab and he was making massive improvements, he then stopped going to rehab and in his head he was cured, he then started wanting to go out drinking which is the main problem because that’s when he will take it most of the time so we have had a lot of argument about him not going out and that I don’t think he is fully over the addiction yet and it’s takes time but He has in his mind he will do what he want when he wants .
So basically he’s relapsed and back on cocaine but also injecting steroid and taking the tablets he just doesn’t see what he is doing to himself . He’s not returning home lying where he is and so on so 2 weeks ago that has put a massive strain on our relationships causing argument and so on but he even still ask to try for a baby with me 3 weeks ago but I said no time Wasn’t right yet due to argue and the drugs that week had been really bad and he decided to break up with me last Saturday because he is sick of arguing and feeling like I am controlling him by not wanting him to go out which isn’t the case I want him to be better and to make sure he’s fully off the drugs first before putting himself in that situation and also am scared because in the past he has lied ,not returned home , drink driving and so on
What do I do I want him back but he doesn’t seem to care I want to help him
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Hi tash, im the same as your bf, i have a problem with coke and i do steroids once a year. But the steroids have never been a problem with me and my gf.
Im lapsing every 3 or 4 week on coke. Im doing my best to stop as i cant stand the stuff anymore. It makes me depressed and suicidal thoughts when im coming down.
But that can also mess with your bf head to be honest. Because of the roids and the hormones.
Anyway…your right in what your saying about .. wanting him to stay in to get better and dont want him to use.
But alcohol is the main trigger to get cocaine. If he doesnt drink for 18 month and no come, and then he goes out with lads.. c
Of course he is going to have coke.
When i was clean for 3 month. You tell yourself you are ok and better now. Believe me you are not! Cocaine is a sneaky drug, it will harrass you for the 1st 3 month of quitting, through dreams, smells, places. Then it thinks ill give you a break , then 9 month down the line its tricking you again to get it. This stuff is like the devil.
It looks like your just going have to decide that, if you want to get back with him, you have to put up with the crap that goes with it. Because if he wants to go out with his mates, who obviously use. He will to.
Or just move on yourself.
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I honestly dont know. There would obviously be a reason. If hes making these decisons while on coke then its the coke really.
If hes dumping you while on coke and saying nasty crap then its the coke.
If hes all over you the next day and apologising, he is regretting what he has done on the coke. But i dont know the full ins and outs.
But steroids did that to me in the past. I dumped my misses thinking.. the grass is greener. Roids do mess with your head tbh when i think about it. Your an emotional wreck.
I dont want to this.. but.. if hes not coming home and hes lying were he has been. Do you not think he could be up to something? Im only saying this because of that and with changing his mind all of a sudden about kids and marriage. I know coke makes you do stupid things.
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Its not good at all.. and mixing coke with alcohol isnt good to. It produces another drug in your body called co ethadrol… i think its called that, but that is what stops alcohol effecting you when coked up. So you can drink loads and not get pissed.
Id just speak to him and see what he wants. And if he dont want to be with you, i know it will be hard but it probably might be a blessing in disguise.
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True they aren’t but the bad thing with alcohol abuse is the liver which will already be getting smashed by the roids
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How old is he? Its not good leaving needles everywere. You should always lock them away. I recan and i could be wrong, hes not in the right frame of mind making decisions, regarding you 2, while he is on the juice. I remeber i use be feeling great on them, thinking im better off single and a load of other crap aswell. They make me feel horny as fuk and most people.
I remeber leaving my gf one week on them. Soo mixing them with coke, his head is going to be over the place.
It defeats the object of being on roids and having coke. Because the weekend comes and you get off your head and then you lose some size, because of not eating and sweating.
What did he say when u went round?
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Have you told him you want to make it work and help him? Whats he saying to that? I know its hard. It always is splitting up. But just try and go out with your mates this weekend. And you try and have some fun
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Sounds like his head is up his ass. I wish my misses was like you lol.
Just give him a couple of days or something. He will come round
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I think if he knows whats good for him he will come crawling back.. if you could see into the future now and say in 5 years time, hes still having coke all the time. Would you still be make it work with him?
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Well just keep trying and make him aware what hes doing to himself. Its a slippery slope what hes doing. Hopefully he will see sence with the coke and you.
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Any luck today tash?
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Go out saturday night, looking the dogs bollocks and get him jealous lol. That use to work for me. I always go back crawling haha.
Or just ignore him and not show you are hurting
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Just leave him to it then. Your just going to make yourself ill. I know its cheesy. But time is a great healer, and everything happens for a reason. Just keep your self occupied so your not over thinking about it.
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Dont do that for a lad. No guys worth that. Get something eat and be with friends and fam who love you and respect you.
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You ok tash? You had a good weekend? Any good news on your bf?
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Anyone who suffers with addiction which is a high percentage whether they have found there vice yet or not! Normally relapse. It’s all about how you look at it . Drugs are addicted I’ve because of the the high/feeling they bring. Is it right or is
It wrong ? That’s the question for most. The truth is that all
These drugs are brilliant and obviously addictive. The truth once again is lots of shit is addictive and even a drug…cigarettes as an example…..that problem with the other drugs is the price! You could be a billionaire and be addicted to
Say coke and maximising your fun times big time.
Generalising big time now as some people end up being proper
Weird and it acts as a gateway drug
To
Heroin etc as they chase another level but this from
My experience it the smaller percentage.
How about money depending you say clean during the week and say Saturday you can let loose but you have to be with him?
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