[misselliot]

Hi. Drink and drugs have been normalised in our lives but they needed to stop. I didn’t realise the effect it was having on my husbands mental health, and he has walked away from our marriage leaving us both heartbroken. I comment him leaving a situation that wasn’t healthy for him, but realising that was the cause has made me stop turning to socialising in those circles knowing what it has destroyed.

The thing that’s confusing me the most is that he is externalising everything. It’s all my fault and he is drastically changing big ticket items in the hope it will bring him happiness. Rather than us working together to bring change. Happiness come from within rather than moving away from an area, changing jobs, and trying to do it yourself. No matter how strong you are we all need support from professionals, and understanding why we turn to these things for support.

I feel such a huge devastating sense of loss and I want my husband to find happiness. I’m told I have to leave him to hit rock bottom, lose everything before he makes the decision himself to start to look within. But it’s so hard to not want to step in and help.

Has anyone else been through anything like this. I feel so alone.

[icarus-trust]

Hi,

Thank you for posting. If you could do with talking with someone who would understand what you are going through please contact us at Icarus Trust as we are a charity that provides support for people dealing with addiction in their family. One of our trained and experienced Family Friends would talk with you if you get in touch and maybe this would help you to not feel so alone.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the best.

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