[grace]

My husband has been an alcoholic for a number of years. He has been through detox once but it did not work. For years I have put up with the emotional abuse and blackmail, in and out of jobs so I have had to try and keep the family afloat and hiding his alcoholism from all our friends and family. After I found out he had an affair I began to stand up for myself and challenged his behaviour. He could not cope with this and his mental health became worse. My 3 children were frightened of him so I started to make arrangements to leave. He knew this, so, in an attempt to regain control he kept threatening to tell people I was abusing him. He told his doctor this who had to report to the police. In the meantime I contacted my children’s schools to ask for safeguarding. The police came, which then scared my husband as he realised he had taken things way to far and it did not have the result he wanted. The police were great and knew he was lying. He finally left the family home but came back as he had no where to go. Our house us rented and in both our names. For a while he settled down and saw his alcohol counsellor and asked to be referred to rehab. However lately his behaviour is becoming more erratic. We are still separated and I look after the children. He will not fully accept he has the problem and everything is mine and the children’s fault. I just feel so alone. My children are having counselling.

[pclou]

You’re not alone. I am in a similar situation.

[icarus-trust]

Hi to you both,
How sad that you have all these things to cope with. If you would like to talk with people who understand please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that has a team of trained volunteers who support the family and friends of addicts. They are called Family Friends and you could be put in touch with one of them if you think it would help and help you to feel not so alone.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck

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