Hi to you both,
How sad that you have all these things to cope with. If you would like to talk with people who understand please contact The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that has a team of trained volunteers who support the family and friends of addicts. They are called Family Friends and you could be put in touch with one of them if you think it would help and help you to feel not so alone.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck