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Ive been having coke for years now.. only when i have a drink.. its like once a month.. or once every 2 week. May be once every 2 month. But my prob is it..it makes me suicidal coming down.. i hate the stuff. Ive been for help stopped for months then again i have a drink.ive got a lovely girlfriend 4 beautiful kids..and ive got a good job. Im so scared of losing it all . This year im gonna and will do my best to stop it.. ive just done a prevention plan. Ive never been so determined. This stuff is horrible and has ruined me. Even tho i dont have it every day.. if any one is going through the same thing i am happy to swap nums for support with each other. Thanks
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You sound a lot like my boyfriend who does it all the time when he drinks. He can’t have a drink and not do it. He came in the other night and he bought tests for me to test him then he refused to do the tests although it being his idea Ive put up with it for years now and now I’ve left him. I can’t help him he won’t stop. It’s not all the time that I know of but at least 2x per week when he’s not working away….. maybe more now I’ve left him. I’m sure he did some the last night when he refused the test otherwise he would of just done the test like he said. I feel like he’s done it then waited a few hours for the effects to go the big eyes they don’t last long do they ? If you time it right. I only wanted to test because there’s not been a time he hasn’t done it when going out.
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He works away for a few weeks then he comes home for a few and goes out he normally goes out the first full day he’s home on the night and he drinks and takes coke, I absolutely hate it. He lies about it and tells me he hasn’t done it and then I see messages on his phone asking for it, I’m having a baby with him and he still does it. I’ve left now can’t deal with it anymore there’s no trust. Won’t admit to any problems just says he does it coz it’s there in front of him well no he asks and picks it up !!
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The eyes only last as long as the high anyway tho so if you wanted to take it and get away with it knowing people notice it by your eyes you could time it… see like why else would you refuse a drugs test that was your idea somthing was done that other night and I know it
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Well he has done it alone we were just in the house I was in bed and he was in the garden doing some jobs it got to about 10pm and I was woundering what he was doing so I went in the back garden and he must of took it by himself with a few cans ???? so if you ask me there’s clearly a problem there? I think that drug makes you a compulsive lair about everything in life also….
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He says he hasn’t got a problem it’s coz it’s there in front of him – it’s not true at all because he goes out of his way to go and get it. With him working away is also a compulsive liar and lies about what days he comes home as well so it’s like I can’t even keep track on if he has stopped or not. I’ve told him to go and get help but I don’t think he will he just says he will. I’ve even told his dad who doesn’t really belive me lol and has basically just said he will fall out with him if it’s true so not much support going on there from the person I thought could at least help ????????♀️ It’s a crap situation! How does having a beer make you want it more ? I dread him going out for beers because it always means beers and coke. I’ve been brought up to be anti- drugs and I just don’t get how you can risk your life for a good time like that – he says I’m being over the top when I say that and it’s iusy a little buzz but really it’s possible
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Hi I am mum of 21 year old who is same but not working as lost job through alcohol and coke it’s horrible cause he begs me for money when he’s on it and also lies to get it he steals off me too but when he’s drunk and on coke he then gambles online !! He’s done couple hundred in an hour when he was working is that something that others do ?
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remove yourself from situations – do not drink if its going to influence you to take drugs, dont go into pubs, go to support groups.. my boyfriend is doing to same – although hes stopped now, he doesnt go into pubs etc.. good luck truly xxx
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Hi Danman,
Good luck with everything. I hope you have still got support to help you with stopping the coke.
Keep strong.
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Dan, what made you realise you had a problem?
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He doesn’t have suicidal thoughts, yet. He used to cry a lot about seven months ago now he’s more agitated and impatient.
I have been thinking of what its doing to him mentally or going to as he doesn’t understand people that do have depression or any mental illness. He has no understanding of it, just impatient.
Eight years, I feel like we haven’t even started.
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You said when you look back you’d been doing it for eight years. He’s been doing it for probably three years occasionally. Now it’s the denial stage and it looks like there’s a long way to go yet, till something really bad happens to him physically or mentally and for him to come to his senses. I feel he has a long way to go.
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I haven’t asked him to choose.
The reason being for six months I couldn’t understand why the drastic change of personality. The other ailments I could put down to anything. The constant cold and sniffling. The blocked nose and nosebleeds. The stomach ache and aching bones. The tiredness. All I thought was he was stressed about the case and under the weather.
It is only because I have had six months of going over in my mind what went wrong. Mulling over everything. Had time to work out what he was doing, going out drinking and who with. Who he didn’t bother with. Who he’d turned against. The hobbies he used to love and the activities he pursued, that he didn’t want to do anymore. Had no passion for.
I only realised after Christmas what he’d been doing.
I talked with a trusted friend who has a wide range of associates and friends with differing problems. It was a lightbulb moment and I should have clicked before.
Now I feel that my moment was missed. In the beginning I could have asked him to choose if I’d realised. Now he hasn’t a problem, he can’t see it. Then again I didn’t see it.
That’s when I finally crumbled and went online to find answers and then help for myself. I feel I need to wait now for something bad to happen.
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Well tonight he’s feeling ill and not going out to play. He’s coughing feeling dizzy and he’s got red hot skin and feeling cold inside.
He is also planning on going back to the gym after seven months. This is a start but the coke friends also go to the gym and take steroids. Let’s see what happens.
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He would have to go to the local leisure centre lol and it isn’t good enough. Only for lightweights. I’ve asked him to stop the steroids and he said his last lot was seven or eight months ago. That must be true as thats the time he stopped going to the gym. But that is also when he started going out more drinking and doing the coke.
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Ridiculous ain’t it. But what you say is true, you have made me smirk.
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Oh god its awful isnt it? we all laugh about it but humans really are so weird. This made me smile this morning reading this. As mine relapsed on Wednesday his mental health is horrendous, he went mad last night in rage and threw our wheelie bin across the garden 🙂 this is what drugs/alcohol do to him the days after, he cries and hates it, I am so so done with crying. He is so determined but I have heard it so many times before. Counselling starts Monday. I cant cope with the anxiety. He works from home on Fridays too which gives him a free rein so makes me feel worse, you cant get away from the stuff its everywhere, I wont be a hypocrite as I did it the odd weekend occasionally but I dont get the big deal, I hate the stuff it made me feel paranoid – although its hard as i havent ever been addicted to nothing, not even a fag.
Its so hard to try and understand, it is a disease, youre right, but it drags everyone around you down.
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He’s feeling better now. Got the phone call and gone for breakfast with his coke mates. Now I’m anxious. He didn’t go out on Thursday, didn’t go out last night. Told them he was ill, at least he was telling the truth. But now he’s seeing them he will be getting that urge to go out tonight.
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You never know with them lot :0 but he came home four hours later and seemed ok.
He has gone out now. Problem is we have never stopped each other going out, never needed to. Now he would just go out anyway.
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