[dogindafog]

Hello all,

I came here to post about what’s going on with my family, specifically my brothers cocaine addiction that seemingly spiraled into a crazy mental health problem. I first his cocaine addiction was no habit or recreational thing when I visited him out East 6 months ago. I would approximate he was snorting 2 8balls every 2-3 days, spending $440 each time as well as drinking/smoking a vape. He was itching himself and causing large abrasions on his skin. All around his house was towels with blood and mucus on them. His home/car looked like someone who hoarded things all their lives. He would barely sleep and barely eat and when he did sleep he would sleep at random times. His mood would shift rapidly. He also had legal charges stemming from drugs that I was made aware of when I got there. Even after all this, I decided to honor his request of letting him figure it out for some time before I told my parents how bad things were for him. I ended up telling my parents about it some 2 months later after things were not getting better and his behavior became worse and more abusive towards my parents. We’ve gone out they’re several times, a parent stayed with him for extended periods to keep him company and his life going(cooking meals, cleaning his apartment that was a complete pigsty, doing his laundry, making his bed). It was going ok for him it seemed. Every time my parent would leave him after an extended stay things would take a turn for the worse. As of the last month or two, he has been blocking my parents for reaching out and blaming these problems on them and making my parents very very sad. They are much too old to be dealing with these things. He has realized that if he abuses them and makes mainly my mom sad he can get things out of her by unblocking her. He recently started asking for money for food, rent and other things with occasional success but my parents do not have the money to keep doing that. They are jeopardizing my dads retirement to do so. I have seen my mom cry too much and I don’t know what to do. He even asked me for money(college kid with little $$) and just recently blocked my number and all socials as well. I don’t even know what i’m asking for by posting this but I just wanted to lay it out there and see what people had to say or similar situations to talk too or ways of helping him or helping me and my family understand whats going on with him. Thanks to anyone who replies and I will do my best to comment back.

edit: I also want to add that he blames his addiction on his job commitments and also drinks id approximate 4 energy drinks a day.

[dogindafog]

To elaborate a little more on how we’ve been treating him as a family is, mainly my mom in most of the contact with him is only loving, patient and kind. He usually will block late in the night(assuming when he’s at the pinnacle of his high) for no real reason but blaming things from his childhood on my parents or when they decline his money request. When he blocked me it was because I asked how it was going and when he replied “eh” I said “so what can we do about that to get you better”

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