[nod23]

Hi there, by the sounds of it u don’t have any children with him? And I am guessing you are still quite young? If that’s right, my advice is to leave and never look back. Start your life again while you can!

Please, believe me! After 16 years, 3 kids marriage and a house I can’t just leave!

You can have a great life still, but you won’t if you stay with him, if he has progressed to that it will be even harder for him to stop. X

[kel1]

Ah that sounds awful and I’m sure this has affected you enormously. I agree with Nod23 in that your life would be so freeing without this kind of toxicity, however saying that it’s understandable that you worry where you will end up living. Sounds like it’s a nightmare!

Crack is so addictive, and so will affect his decision to “want to stop”. It literally destroys the individual and they end up in a neverending cycle of addiction! There will at some point be a ” rock bottom” but even that has a basement! He really needs to get some support from a drugs service asap. Crack changes the way the brain releases dopamine – Happy chemical in the brain. Which i suppose explains the extreme mood swings, it messes with the natural chemistry in the brain. It literally changes them into monsters I’m afraid and to avoid those extreme moods they end up taking more, leading to psychological dependancy.

Would he bring others into your home now you’re not there? I hope not ???? but in my experience it ends up with the user finding other users and then the house spins into chaos. That’s just my experience.

Hope you’ve got no kids, and you can plan what you want to do as to whether or not you will leave or ask him to leave! Living with an addict is no picnic, it’s a nightmare as you know and it will end up if not already destroying you emotionally and physically. I ended up having a break down so I had no choice but to leave the madness.

We are all here for you so keep talking, because over time when you start to heal you will realize that you’ve suffered so much and that you’ll probably need to get some help for yourself.

Don’t listen to all the blame, that typical of an addict, lies, manipulation, aggression etc – it’s all a deflection of their issues. And it is THEIRS not yours.

Bug hugs to you

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