[debc]

Hi ahlags429,

This is a good place to start with finding help and talking to people who are in the same situation.

My Son is an addict (cocaine and alcohol), he is in Recovery, but having had 10 plus years of this, they are the only ones that can help themselves and only when they are ready.

He had been in Rehab twice, does zoom meetings every day for CA and AA, and has a sponsor to help him work through the 12 step recovery program.

This Forum is great for help and sharing our stories with each other, it has certainly helped me.

The trust is a huge thing, especially in a relationship, because they do lie, I sometimes wonder if they even know they are doing it.

There are lots of stories on here in the same situation as yourself, I don’t know whether you have read them.

The Icarus Trust is another place that is very helpful.

I wish you well, take care and keep in touch.

Dx

[ahlags429]

Hi Debc,

Thanks so much for your response. It’s helpful to know others can relate and recovery isn’t impossible.

The lying is one of the scariest parts to me, as you said it’s like they don’t even know they’re doing it, which makes it even harder for us to spot.

He told me he would start looking into AA/CA meetings. I’m trying to let him take ownership of finding a group so he doesn’t feel like he is being pushed, but rather doing it because be wants to.

Thanks again, be well.

[lindyloo]

Hi Ahlags and welcome to the forum.

I’m so sorry to read your story and wanted to let you know that you are no alone. Everyone on this forum has been affected by alcohol or substance abuse in some way. Either their loved one, or there are some recovering addicts who share advice and support too.

I found myself wanting to vent when my son had relapsed. He takes alcohol and cocaine. The alcohol is a trigger for drugs, so really it should be avoided at all costs.

Read the other stories, “share your stories ” then click back to 15th September. There’s some good advice and support. The Forum home page is helpful and the Icarus Trust posts here also.

I wish I had all the answers for you, but your bf will have to admit he has a problem then attend/go online to the aa or ca meetings. He’ll be meeting others in the same situation and others who are years clean who offer help and support.

I hope and pray you both get the support you seek.

Take care of yourself

Lx

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