[justin]

What do you do when you have tried everything that can be possibly done for the last 12 years and things only get worst year after year?

What do you do when your sister has been diagnosed with being Bipolar, borderline, attention disorder, addictions to drugs, alcohol, sex, etc, etc, etc.

What do you do if she threatens you to suicide every other day or cries for attention every hour of the day but doesn’t accept any help, treats her family as if we where her worst enemy and goes out of her way to make us suffer as much as we possibly can, using all the lies in the book, making every one of her stories sound like a scene out of Lord of the rings.

What do you do when she doesn’t want to go to any mental health institute or she escapes after a week. When she is a danger to herself to us and the public, but we cannot make decisions for her as she is overage.

What do you do then?

There is no place for her in society, therefore dragging her family into the ditch with her.

[trainer28]

I unfortunately have no advice for you sorry but I didn’t want to read and run.

It sounds like you could do with some support, I hope venting on here has helped a little at least.

Take care

[justin]

Thank you for reading, and replying. Venting sometimes really helps.

Im happy to know that Im not alone.

[poppy10]

Hi , this sounds like a very stressful situation for you!

You say that she is a danger to herself and others?

Surely this is grounds for her to be sectioned?

[justin]

Yes, we are fighting to get her custody in order to keep her safe, but the laws in Spain are not always favorable or fair.

[icarus-trust]

Hi Justin

So sorry to read your post and hope that you have found some support on this blog. What you are going through with your sister is very hard, stressful and emotionally draining. If you think it would help to talk with someone who understands what you are dealing with please contact us at The Icarus Trust.

We are a charity that provides support form people like you who are dealing with the addictive behaviours of a close family member. If you contact us I can put you in touch with one of our trained and experienced people who will listen to you and try to help.

Please contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the best.

[leg123]

Hi Justin,

I thought I would reply to your post and say hello. I have sister (twin) with exactly the same issues, borderline, alcohol dependence, depression. Whilst I feel terrible for her I can no longer take the trouble and drama she creates for herself. She has lost so many jobs, she can’t maintain healthy relationships with anyone. Only this week she got lost in a farmers field??? The police had to pick her up she had cut herself on barbed wire fence, couldn’t make work. She constantly phones at all hours drunk. In the last 20 years I don’t know a week where it has been peaceful. I actually find my life a living hell. I went on to the Icarus trust website, I hadn’t heard of them. My sister has had stints in the priory etc but she doesn’t stay or engage.I really sympathise with you and understand when you say it affects the whole family. My parents have given up albeit my mum attends Al non for her own health.

I wish I had some positive advice to give but I don’t, sometimes I just feel there is no better.

Take care

[Author]

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