On returning from holiday we found my son has been taking cocaine , he has taken various drugs over the last fifteen years . I have tried getting him to counselling to no avail. This episode has been particularly bad as I new at Christmas he was doing some thing but not sure what. He has got himself into a lot of debt. When we came home from holiday we found four wraps in his room and confronted him. He agreed to go to the Drs but not to any N A meetings . This was Three weeks ago he seems to be doing ok on eating lots of chocolate, but when I thought he was acting a bit suspicious this week and I thought he might have smoked some weed He told me his Dad said it was all right to do weed as long as he didn’t bring it home . I thought by reading different programs that when you are trying to recover from drug abuse it is better not to do any thing and avoid the people who do it . My Son is thirty and I feel I am not getting the support from my husband,I feel I may as well just leave .