[icarus-trust]

Hi Jem,

Thanks for posting. I’m sorry to read what you are going through due to your son’s addiction. It’s really hard I know.

If you would like some support for yourself maybe you would like to contact us at The Icarus Trust.

We are a charity that offers support to people going through what you are with a family member’s addiction. We have trained people you could talk with who have lots of experience of helping people though this. Maybe talking to one of them would help you find the way ahead.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

All the best to you.

[jem]

Hi,

Thank you for responding, I will get in touch with the charity. It would be really good to talk to people who understand the issues and can help me find the best way forward to be of use to my son – while staying sane myself.

[icarus-trust]

Hope you find it useful. Best of luck

[looking4hope]

Hi, I apologise in advance that I don’t have all the answers for you but I wanted to reach out and say “hang in there”. You sound like a great and caring parent. Your story made me cry as I am going through a similar thing with my boyfriend’s drug addiction.

If you are like me, I have never had any issues myself with addiction so I think it is difficult to understand why it is so hard for them to quit. But from reading articles, it seems that addiction is quite complex and requires more than just a strong will, it is a sickness. I try to remind myself to stay positive and that it’s not his fault but it is REALLY hard.

At times I think I’m going crazy too.

I think the fact that your son has gone to counselling and smart recovery in the past means that there is a part of him that wants to get better.

You mentioned that you spent a lot on him last year and I read before that this enables him and prolongs the process. But of course.. how can a parent not help their own son when he asks for help? I am so sorry that you are in this dilemma.

Well I’m not sure if I was much help but I just wanted you to know that you’re not alone in your feelings.

[jem]

Hi,

I’ve only just seen your message, it was lovely to read, although I am sorry about your partner, I can imagine how hard this is for you, but you sound very understanding and patient.

I have my son with me now, he is about 6 days clean, but facing a very long road ahead.

Like you I have never suffered with addiction, but grew up with a functioning alcoholic parent. I am very scared for my son, as I really do get how hard it is to stay clean, and that the odds are stacked against you.

I hope you are doing okay and that your partner is moving in the right direction.

Take care of yourself.

JEM

Apologies again for not replying sooner.

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