[domino]

My 17 year old is smoking weed and I think he is supplying it I have just found 8 bags plus a grinder plus some sort of electric machine myco was the name in his room he keeps needing money all the time he demanded 160 the other day the last time when his father found it he confiscated and was absolutely distraught and frightened and needed it back or as he said they would come to the door and he’d get his head kicked in that day he told me he rolled it for others in turn for getting it free!! Today he has basically gone mental as I removed it all from his room I tried to discuss it with him but he lost his temper and kicked doors . It is dried cannabis that he has I’m worried sick

[poppy10]

Hi yes this is a tricky situation, not only do you worry about the drug taking but also the things this can lead to, ie who he is associating with and what other drugs are being used by his friends.

You could check to see if he has another phone, or try and look through his messages as this will tell you a lot about what’s going on in his life.

I don’t want to scare you but I know from personal experience with my own child how things can escalate

[domino]

No other phone and I can’t get into his phone although I am bill holder I can see all calls or messages he makes to certain numbers .someone seems to have a grip of him what he has is not for personal use he’s using my money to buy it he never has any of his own money he doesn’t have a bank account the smell from his room is atrocious he doesn’t smoke it in the house but grinds it he did tell me once that he rolls it for people and gets his stuff free but why then is he asking for money all the time there is no evidence of any other drug use he doesn’t drink I’ve never really seen him spaced out he always comes home I never smell it from him but he does have the munchies . He will suddenly leave the house for 10mins then come back but not under the influence of anything he will not talk to me although he promised to explain all in Thursday to me after I transferred money to one of his friends and he said he would stop what he was doing that this was the last I’m such a mug

[domino]

No other phone and I can’t get into his phone although I am bill holder I can see all calls or messages he makes to certain numbers .someone seems to have a grip of him what he has is not for personal use he’s using my money to buy it he never has any of his own money he doesn’t have a bank account the smell from his room is atrocious he doesn’t smoke it in the house but grinds it he did tell me once that he rolls it for people and gets his stuff free but why then is he asking for money all the time there is no evidence of any other drug use he doesn’t drink I’ve never really seen him spaced out he always comes home I never smell it from him but he does have the munchies . He will suddenly leave the house for 10mins then come back but not under the influence of anything he will not talk to me although he promised to explain all in Thursday to me after I transferred money to one of his friends and he said he would stop what he was doing that this was the last I’m such a mug

[poppy10]

At least he isn’t smoking it in the house, my daughter does but constantly denies that she is !

You could always come down really hard on him and say if you see anymore in the house you will call the police and he’ll get charged with possession and intent to supply. This may deter him .

If he’s selling the weed then surely he’s actually making money so shouldn’t need to borrow from you.

My teen thinks she knows best and all you can do is be there for him, offer advice and hope he makes the right decisions.

Is he at school or college?

I feel your worry as we’ve been dealing with issues around drugs for some time now!

On a positive note at least he isn’t taking anything else!

[domino]

Tried the police thing however if that happened his dad and I would also be charged with possession! I’m a pharmacist which makes it even worse than it could be if it could be worse!

He’s at. College but he was a clever boy didn’t apply himself got his Nat 5 s failed highers as he didn’t study went back to 6 th year but all friends had left so left school for a college course that was snapped up last kick ! Today after what I have found has confirmed my suspicions especially when I saw this weighing machine and if all the supplies he has is for his own use he has a serious problem I just don’t understand why he has no money why last week he desperately needed 160 i probably do understand but I am still in denial

You say your daughter denies smoking it in the house I think they’re all the same even when confronted with evidence then go off one when caught my son has blamed me for it all I wonder where I went wrong

[poppy10]

I don’t think that you would be charged or get in trouble with police. There must be thousands of cases like this.

I’ve handed the police drugs at least twice and they took them without charging my daughter.

They were for her use only though.

I think the police are looking at the bigger picture, ie the big dealers as young kids are vulnerable to coercion .

Good luck , I wish I had the answers I really do.

I’m a nurse and my partner also has a responsible job it’s a nightmare for us.

My daughter smokes weed daily but is also addicted to Xanax.

She doesn’t eat, covered in bruises and can’t remember what she did from one day to the next!

Totally turned our world upside down.

[domino]

Oh god I really feel for you .

I was told by a local addiction worker that we would be charged also I had to stop my husband calling the police .

Today I really wanted to call them I was shocked still am.

And after my sons rant he’s just lieing in his room as if nothing has happened he knows he’s got one up on me he knows I won’t tell his dad as I fear that his dad will really hurt him I have no one to talk to .

[poppy10]

Just to say… you’ve done nothing wrong! We are a decent family and this has happened to us! We have and still go through blaming ourselves, there’s no point ! Weed is so common amongst teens now, they think nothing of it!

[domino]

Yes well know it’s so common and after having him in hospital one night blind drunk I took the view that I’d rather he had the occasional joint than get blind drunk but it’s really out of hand now! I shouldn’t blame myself but I do all my dreams for him have fallen by the wayside I know I can only guide and then it’s up to them but I feel as if he’s thrown it all back in my face . He hasn’t had a relationship with his father gor years now and I think this has a lot to do with it although his father denies it that’s another long story though

[poppy10]

Yes we’ve certainly had many rows about our daughter. She has 2 younger siblings Aswell and this has really affected them.

Do you have a friend you can confide in?

Dealing with this sort of problem does make you feel alone and isolated.

Reading the stories on here makes me realise that I’m not alone.

There aren’t any support groups in my area, I feel it would really help me cope.

[domino]

Yes he has two younger brothers twins aged 14 and it does affect them they don’t have a relationship anymore whereas up until a couple of years ago they all got on great . My son won’t even see his grandparents anymore and they adore him and I can’t tell them they’re 81

I haven’t really spoken to anyone about this in detail probably because I’m in denial

I just want my son to talk to me so we can try and sort this out I’m really scared he’s in trouble

[poppy10]

Hi , how are things with you and your son now?

We are still battling, daughter still taking Xanax and throwing her life away.

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