[kel1]

Hi Zoe, after all that time with your guard up and then you allow your heart to be open – now this. Well, all I can say is try not to beat yourself up for that, it’s ok to have opened your heart, it shows your love for another person. You are not to blame here.

Unfortunately, lies, betrayal, and all the rest of it comes with the territory with this drug. I think what hurts the most, well from my perspective is the Betrayal! The break down in trust, and the idea that somehow”we are imagining things”.

God I was blamed, lied to, cheated on and so much more so I feel your pain.

He really needs to want to help himself, and that starts with being honest. If his actively used then the pull of that drug has probably got control of him. It’s awful, and I hate that drug.

It ruins people. Maybe you are his world, but at the moment he isnt in the “real world”. Sometimes they say they want to change but put little action into it.

Focus on you and your kids. Be kind to yourself and let him go sort himself out. Women are not rehabilitation centers for people with problems! You/ we deserve better

[zoerg]

Yes I/we do ….. I’ve never had to deal with anything like this before so it’s really hard to know how to handle it and how to deal with it the right way ….. I’ve got him help with the right people where we live but I think they don’t see him as an extreme case as he still goes to work etc etc …..I’ve said part of recovery is being up front n honest with everyone including his 3 kids but now they’ve told him they would’ve rather not been told about his problem and I feel I’m being blamed for that … as the family think that kids should be ‘protected’ from things like this where as I don’t ????????

[kel1]

Nothing you’ve done is your fault. And yeh living with an addict is hell! Literal hell.

Hope you’re doing alright – keep strong ????

[brooke714]

I’m going through the exact same thing you are. I have left multiple times in hopes he will change for myself and our kids. I am finally living separately while trying to help but he keeps relapsing and I’m not sure I can keep living my life this way. One thing I know for sure is to never believe them. They know how to lie so good it will make you second guess yourself to the point you think you are crazy. I hope the best for you and stay strong!

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