[clairex]

Hi I’m just new to this page I’m wondering if yous can help me. I’ve been with my parter 10 years we have two kids age 4 and 2 I’ve just found out I’m expecting again , I work 12 hour shifts constantly he has the kids while I’m working in coming home at night he’s drunk and taken cocaine while having the kids , his attitude towards everything is vile I just don’t know what else to do!!

[georgia26]

Hi Claire,

Bless you.. does he realise he needs help? the problem with addicts is that it makes them so so selfish, they are almost emotionless.

How long has he been doing cocaine and drinking and how often is this?

It is such a heartbreaking place to be in.. xx

[clairex]

It’s near enough every week he says he will go for help then just doesn’t bother too do anything. I feel like I’m at my wits end.

[danman83]

Hi claire im 5 week clean from coke today.. the main thing is.. has he admitted he has a problem and does he want to quit??

[clairex]

He has admired it too me yeh and says he wants too but doesn’t seem to do anything it’s only getting worse. X

[dnanon]

Hi Claire, if he says he wants to quit then there should be local drug support agencies that he can contact and needs to. You have to think of yourself and your children. What about your parents? Could they give you support?

[laura86]

Your story sounds so familiar to mine, it’s unreal. I work evenings 5 nights a week and my husband looks after our children. His been using cocaine while I’ve been at work and his looking after the children. He tells me a the time that he has a problem and needs help. But he never actually seeks the help. He lies so much now, I never believe a word he says. Today was the last straw, when he spent all his wages on cocaine last night over £500. I have left him. I need to make myself and my children my priority. I need to love myself again instead of worry what my husband is doing, or worrying if he is lying to me again. We argue all the time about it and my children witness it all. I decided I need to stop enabling his addiction and concentrate on us for a change. I have tried to help him so many times, but nothing works. I hope your situation works out. I am now seeking counselling for the emotional scars and lack of trust issues I have as a result of my situation

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