[retroheadz]

Hello! I have just replied to someone in a very similar situation so this is not that unusual and I’m sure you know that. Don’t feel like your alone especially if you read some of the stories on this site and talking to friends and strangers will definitely help. Anyway, I’m sure you don’t need telling that alcohol is a drug! and absolutely the worst drug available to humanity so using it on a regular basis is definitely a way of medicating. If your partner is at the stage of drinking more than twice a week it is proven that it’s a problem and hiding it is the signal for danger ⛔️ I know that this for a fact as my childhood was surrounded by sneaky alcoholics. He almost DEFINITELY has a problem and needs professional help and not just a talk around the dining table because alcohol has a grip stronger than any other drug, it is absolutely evil and don’t let the critics convince you otherwise. You can’t expect yourself to fix him because your not a professional and even though he’s you love he still needs alcohol and that need can often and mostly alway be greater than your relationship. You can’t win a fight against an addict because they always win and if they don’t they argue louder and make any excuses to storm away for a fix. Personally I would ban alcohol tomorrow because it destroys families and kills so many people. I feel for you because you have and are being affected by this addiction so making a decision is very difficult. You know the term (nip it in the bud) well it’s easier said than done but if you can find the courage to give him the opportunity to get some professional help I think you can save you own life ????

[hope1]

Hi,

Thanks for your post. Everything you say is completely true. He admits he is an alcoholic and has tried AA once for a couple of weeks. He is a sneaky alcoholic and hides alcohol in the strangest places around the house and fills water bottles with wine, but only coloured water bottles so you can’t tell. This has been going on for well over a year and since lock down has either got worse or I’m noticing it more. I’ve stopped policing it as it serves no purpose but to stress me.

You are so right about not winning a argument ! Where possible i tread on egg shells when he is drunk. As having a discussion is out of the question as he gets so angry, and will twist what I say . Arguing doesn’t solve anything either.

I have found a few numbers other than the AA and given them to him, he says he rang and they give him some links. I don’t believe him.

I think I could cope if he drank, and wasn’t so angry and argumentative . But he is not a happy drunk. He also suffers from depression which obviously is worsened by the drinking and all the probs he has are magnified because of the drink

I try to explain to him that if he is going to drink it may be an idea we didn’t talk about any problems he thinks we may have but to talk when he has not been drinking. This hasn’t worked . But to be honest didn’t think it would .

Anyway thanks for your post. Helps just writing it down and sharing it

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