[eddie123]

Hi there, this sounds like a very difficult situation for you and I am sorry. I know of a great charity that supports people like yourselves nationwide. The family support programme is all remote and they help many families a year. Please see link and fill in the referral and someone will endeavour to respond within 24 hours. https://adaptoxford.org.uk/the-icarus-programme/

They also provide free treatment for those seeking help from addiction, however as as a family member wanting support I would deff get in touch with them.

[Theviewfromhere]

Hi welshlass,

It’s been a while since you posted this, so I hope that you are ok.
I am in a similar position to you. The constant cycle of binge, everything implodes, aggression, and then apologies and remorse. Promises of it never happening again, a period of abstinence. But then it will starts again. I am at my wits end and am at the point of saying he has to leave. But how do you do that when there is still so much love there? When they are still the person you fell in love with when drink isn’t involved? It’s heartbreaking and devastating. I just wanted to reach out and say if you’re still in this position, you’re not alone.

Take care

[rain888]

Hello! New here as well. Thank you for sharing your experiences, it made me feel less lonely… less crazy I suppose. Sometimes i feel like im over reacting and that things are not that bad… but when he is drunk and taking all his frustrations on me (he doesn’t have any close friends, im basically all he has) then i know I can’t be over reacting.

3 weeks ago after a big fight while he was drunk, the next day he said he knows he is not using alcohol the way he should, a week after he had 2 beers on a Tuesday because he said had a terrible day at work, on the weekend he had 6 standard drinks and finally 1 glass of tequila with water the following Tuesday. He doesn’t get completely wasted every time he drinks but he gets drunk enough to start arguments.
today i came back from work and he was wasted, said he had a bad day, lied saying he had a non alcoholic beer and that it must have reacted with his flu vaccine … he said the doctor told him he has high blood pressure and that he thinks is all my fault because of the stress i cause him when we keep arguing.
im tired 🙁

[eddie123]

Hi there, this sounds like a very difficult situation for you and I am sorry. I know of a great charity that supports people like yourselves nationwide. The family support programme is all remote and they help many families a year. Please see link and fill in the referral and someone will endeavour to respond within 24 hours.

https://www.adaptoxford.org.uk/support

They also provide free treatment to the substance user if they want the support themselves( under the adapt programme on their website)

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