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I am really struggling. My daughter is very clever and very high functioning but also, I believe an Alcoholic. She has been for 20 years and left a trail of debt and destruction in her wake. Broken marriages, lost jobs and careers.

We rescued her 2 years ago from her marriage and life and moved her in with us. We sorted her many, many debts and payday loans and that has all left us without savings. She started to do really well. Lost 7 stone, got a job abroad was drinking lost it and the money so we had to fly her home.  She goes hiking and exercising is now on a good post grad course, but every week or so she disappears and drinks to the point of oblivion. She is usually alone and outside, and it scares me to death the risk she takes.

She has been brought home by the police, ambulances and sometimes well-meaning folk who found her lying in the road. She is missing again now.

We got her to contact the Doctor and she is being assessed for ADHD or Bi-Polar but I am not sure either will make any difference. We have done everything we can to make life good for her, taking her out to things she likes, supporting her doing all her washing, cooking and errands. She is over 40 though and we are in our 70s and I am in despair.

I don’t want her living here anymore but/i cannot make her homeless. She has no friends really although will use dating apps and meet people but not tell us when or who.

Can anyone help me?

I am not coping well. I am frantic, afraid, angry and betrayed

 

I have discovered she has acquired credit cards, and more loans based on her student loan income.

 

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