[breakingdown]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I knew he liked to do coke occasionally, or so I thought. About 4 months into our relationship I found out he was smoking crack cocaine. I had found his pipe and confronted him about it right then. He broke the pipe and swore to me he’d quit. I’ve never been in the situation before so of course I believed him because I love him and trusted him.

He’s taken electronics from my kids to sell at the pawn shop, he pawned our TV, he misses work constantly because he was up all night. He hasn’t paid a bill in months. I’ve tried to be everything he needs to keep him from wanting to get high but he chooses the drug every time.

Fast forward to now and come to find out he’s been using again and refuses to admit to me. He refuses to see he has a problem at all. I’ve gone through the anger, sadness and disappointment. I want to give him the benefit of doubt but he keeps failing me over and over again.

I’m not sure what I’m looking for here other than just some kind words of encouragement or advice because I’m at a loss. My mental health is declining from the stress of this all.

[lindyloo]

Hi

I read your story im so sorry to hear that you’ve had such a tough time with your partner.

It sounds to me like he’s in denial that he has an addiction problem. He has to be the one who decides that he has to do something or he’ll lose everything.

Addicts are very selfish and the drugs make then insensitive to hurting those closest to them.

We’ve been through this many times with my adult son. He’s has an alcohol addiction and sometimes uses cocaine too. He’s holding down a good job, but as soon as he’s paid, he keeps relapsing then comes running to us when he’s skint. It’s very exhausting and creates a horrible atmosphere in the house.

I would seek as much help and advice from others in your situation, and know that you’re not alone. You are stronger than you think. Take care I wish you well. Lx

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