Hi there, didn’t want to not reply, hope you’re ok and I don’t know the details but try not to blame yourself – I’m trying to remember with my partner that we can’t save them, it has to come from inside them – easier said than done though I know when you can see they are throwing everything away. Does your husband say he wants to get any help or admit he has a problem? Sounds like it’s been going on a while so you must be exhausted with it all, so draining – is there anyone you could trust to open up to then you would have someone to talk to xx