[lindyloo]

Hi Sunflower,

I’m new to the forum and I can sympathise with every single one of you. I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through a bad time with your partner.

It’s so frustrating when they relapse, you just think that everything is going to be fine and then it’s back to the old ways again. We have the same problem with my adult son. I agree about the lies and promises they spin. They probably mean it at the time, but you know in your heart that you’re not really convinced.

Its a horrible illness that they have, and it affects everyone around them. Makes them selfish and insensitive, but the only person they can blame is themselves. It starts and ends with them. I hope he can get help through going to meetings and getting support from sponsors. It can work for some people, at least they have a network of support. But, they have to want that support. I wish you well and hope you and your daughter get the peace and love that you deserve. Be strong. Lx

[sunflower124]

Thank you for taking the time to comment @lindyloo. Sorry to hear about your son as well – it’s just so hard because you know they are a good person and have so much more to them than the addiction but they have to want to help themselves. I think they do mean it in the moment too, and want to change as who wants to be controlled by a drug and potentially lose their family? I’m trying to be understanding but with a young daughter I won’t stick around forever, it’s not fair on her. I hope things improve for you and your son also x

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