[dfh]

I’m going through similar. I can’t help but think Danman83 would have the best advice for you. I can only give you advice based on how I cope. X

[redfox20]

Thank you yes @danman83 is very helpful in giving insights to how an addict feels, so sorry to hear your going through the same situation it’s awful isn’t it, how do you cope have you cut your partner/husband off? Am i best to let him hit rock bottom. X

[dfh]

Yes you are better off just getting on with looking after yourself and your kids. Leave him be with what hes doing, you can’t do anything about it anyway. I’ve detached myself so I don’t get stressed. I also find CRAFT therapy helps. There is a helpful link on 20minuteguide….Google it. There’s about 10 pages and each page gives you so much help into how to cope. Xx

[redfox20]

Thank you will check that out 🙂 it’s so conflicting isn’t it you don’t know what the right or wrong thing to do i never asked to be in this situation neither did he I suppose, but putting yourself first is a must of course especially when you have kids. It just hurts how he can abandon them but they are fine & happy that’s all that matters they have me. I’m going to let him get on with it as I’m always there this will be a shock to him hopefully a wake up call he needs because we haven’t officially said we’re done he has some clothing not a great deal most of he’s belongings & passport is at my house so he’s in no rush to get them been nearly 5 weeks. Xx

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