[janette-plant]

I have been with my partner for 2 years and he always hid his addiction until he moved in with me and couldn’t hide it anymore …

I have told him that he doesn’t use around me or in my house, because of this he disappears for days at a time and comes back like he never been anywhere and then tells me he loves me and he sorry and then spends days in bed…

I’m at my wits end with him, I’ve tried to end my relationship with him many times but … he got nowhere else to go because his family will not have him at any of their homes.

[danman83]

Whats he on if you dont mind me asking? Coke? Sounds like it

[janette-plant]

No … heroine I think

[janette-plant]

Sorry but I’m not sure what’s drugs are lol

But … summit called brown ? What ever that is ?

[danman83]

Ye brown is heroin.. do you have kids together? If not id get out while u can. And he needs to get help asap, thats if he wants it. Or give him one last chance and say he gets help or he moves out.

[janette-plant]

No kids in the household … luckily

I keep giving him chance after chance … I can see him trying but he going off for days on end .

[danman83]

Ye its not good at all that. U do deserve better.

[janette-plant]

He left my house on Tuesday and came back on Friday… looking poorly and he been cold turkey all weekend …

he be off again soon I bet and that’s how are relationship is at the moment

[danman83]

What do you want out of all this if you dont mind me asking? U have said you dont want to see him on the streets. But you cant keep putting up with this. Me personally id say.. you go to rehab or you get out and you have a month to decide.. but thats just my opinion. It cant be good for your health

[janette-plant]

I know ….

I do tell him our relationship is over many times … but the bottom line is “I love him” and he knows I won’t kick him out .

I keep wishing he sees sense one day and wants come clean and lend a so called normal life …

[janette-plant]

My family goes mad at me … so I’ve backed off from them instead of listening to them , I’ve stopped telling them what he does too me because they think I’m crazy to put up with him …. but I can’t help it …

they say, it’s my fault for putting up with him which makes me sad

[icarus-trust]

Hi Janette,

I’m sorry to read about how you are dealing with your boyfriends drug habit.

I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust and we offer support for people like you, affected by another’s addiction. We have very experienced people you could talk to if you would like to have some support.

You can contact Icarus Trust on help@icarustrust.org or visit our website http://www.icarustrust.org

Good luck.

[danman83]

They have a point . But love makes you do crazy things. My gf had stood by me. Is he trying to stop at all? And whats he doing to stop?

[janette-plant]

Think he is trying …. because I believe his habit was big at one time x but he can be with me for weeks and not touch a thing x I know it’s hard for him … but he has come long way since we meet suppose.

[danman83]

He just needs to cut everyone off and everything to do with it really. And take up things to keep his brain occupied. Meditation and hobbies. Its hard it really is.. you get tested so many times.

I went to a hypnotist and it worked for 3 week. Then some one i know who has never sold it. Pulled aload out in front of me and said they was selling it now. I didnt get any off them. But my mind then was set on getting it, and i did. You get tested like this all the time. You just have to avoid so many situations. Your brain tricks you into these situations wanting it even tho you dont want to.

[janette-plant]

Well I met him and we both live in different towns, so he came to live with me where no-body knows him and I live a straight life and work full time and I take full care of him in every way, financially, emotionally, he fully dependent on me x

[danman83]

Hes prob going back then if hes missing for days.

[janette-plant]

Yes I think he does x

[roundy]

Hi Janette,

It’s a very difficult and emotionally exhausting situation to find yourself in. But unless he wants to stop, he wont. My partner is currently in rehab as he’s an alcoholic. Its his 3rd detox.

[janette-plant]

Thing is …. I can’t just give up on him, I know he loves me but his habit does get the better of him and he goes for days … but he always comes back with no explanation and says nothing ….

I know one day I will say enough is enough. I just hope when he goes again that he doesn’t come back because when I see him , I can’t say no to him x

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