[beckie511]

So my partner and I have been together for the last four years. During this time I have always suspected he has had a bad relationship with alcohol. There have been tell-tale signs throughout the years; such as alcohol missing from bottles, topping bottles up with water and generally lying when he’s had a drink or not. I’ve found things have progressively got worse as times gone on from finding hidden vodka bottles on top of cupboards, under sofas and even in pillowcases. I’ve got to a point now where things are touch and go within the relationship. We are now expecting a child together in three months and he has been out of work since March due to Covid. A few days ago I was checking my credit card statement and realised there were a number of transactions I didn’t recognise. I then confronted him and he admitted that he had been using my credit card for the last two months to withdraw sums of money to buy cocaine which he would take during the day while I’m at work. I’m so upset and not sure where to go from here. I have finally offloaded this burden and shared this information with my family who are very close but very judgemental. I understand addiction is an illness and he has got himself stuck in a rut. I’ve done absolutely everything I can think of to help his situation throughout the years from dealing the mood swings, the arguments to financially and emotionally supporting him. I’m now worried that with a baby due in the next three months he’s not going to be able to change. Currently I’ve left the situation as needing a break and asked him to move out so he can spend time sorting out his life, finding a job, dealing with his addiction and working on himself. I don’t want to break up with him and I don’t want to raise this baby on my own but I’m terrified he can’t do the things hes promising.

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