[danman83]

Personally i dont think so. Ive got a coke problem, been clean for 18 days so far. And so far so good. But i treat every one of my kids n gf before me. If they need clothes and that, but then again it depends how bad they are i would say.. id imagine heroin addicts would do out for some. Well they do near me. Sounds like shes just used u.

[coffee0105]

Yes. I think the trouble is she is so used to me and my mum always being there to pick her up and to do stuff for her, that now I’ve withdrawn that she’s making no effort. Sometimes I think it’s good to see that if you stop doing what you have always done, even contacting first, it’s interesting to see what happens…..nothing! I think she has the ‘poor me’ act going on. She’s lots of attention from those not emotionally involved. However family such as my brother, sister in law and myself are so deeply hurt by her selfishness and attitude towards is all.

Thanks for your reply and well done for staying clean 🙂

[hox]

My husband was never selfish before. He put my wellbeing first, did everything he could for me and I did the same for him. We were a team, inseparable. Nothing changed for fourteen years. Then came the cocaine. This has changed him. He is a completely different person now he on this. Selfish is an understatement he can be bloody evil too with his words. No one outside of these four walls would believe me if I told them the truth.

[coffee0105]

Yes I understand. My sister has been cruel with her words too. Horrid. I’m sorry to hear that you are suffering with his addiction and baring the brunt of it. Have you got any support? I believe you. Thank you for your reply 🙂

[hox]

I have a few close friends that I can confide in but I don’t tell them everything. I find being on here helps a hell of a lot. People that are going through the same thing can understand better. Plus I don’t have to hold anything back.

[coffee0105]

I don’t have anyone to talk to about it. I do talk to my mum but then I feel guilty as it’s not her fault. I can’t really talk to anyone about it as everyone has opinions and they don’t understand or listen. They don’t have the emotions attached to it as I do. I don’t really use this site, but I feel that I need to as I am harbouring a lot of anger towards her.

[sae1996]

Hello!

I agree with Hox. My Boyfriend is the kindest person ever when he’s sober but once he’s used no one else matters. It’s awful and scary how addictions have such a hold on people.

I hope things get better for you x

[hox]

I think my husband has done a lot of damage to himself. In body I can see the ailments. In mind it is worse, he now takes more than four or five lines each time he goes out, up to three times a week. His personality has changed drastically from one extreme being a wonderful husband to the other being selfish and arrogant.

[sae1996]

I know exactly what you mean – it’s absolutely heart breaking and it’s not even just when they’re using. It’s the aftermath of the come down, or when they’re struggling and go and get it. I’m finding it very hard to communicate and he will not talk to me about it. Just awful.

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