[icarus-trust]

This must be so hard for you and you must feel so torn. It sounds like you could really do with someone to talk to who would understand just how you are feeling and what you are having to deal with. The Icarus Trust is a charity that supports the families and friends of addicts because we know how hard it is if you are in this situation. We have very experienced trained volunteers who you could be put in touch with if you contact us.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
Good luck. I hope this helps.

[daughter-of-alcoholic]

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. I find places like this are very good to let all emotions out as not many people understand. My Dad was an alcoholic and passed away in April this year at the age of 44, it was a very rough time but people didn’t seem to be bothered, I didn’t get the usual condolences as people seemed to think because he was an alcoholic it was to be expected. I was also told like you he needed to reach rock bottom to pick himself up, but the sad fact is it doesn’t work, it may do for a little while but not in the long run. Alcohol is an illness and it is very hard to shake once it has taken over. My Dad was always a nice man, even with the alcohol, he just felt he needed it because it gave him confidence and gave him his life, without it he felt lost and didn’t like that feeling. He went for help, but often lied about his situation to make it sound better and to make it sound as if he was getting better. Most alcoholics tend to feel as though they are invincible, when that is not the case and it is very hard to get the correct help. My Dad moved in with me but I couldn’t have him around my daughter any more so I completely understand that you cant have your daughter around you and your grandchildren but I do think everyone needs to help and stick by your daughter and push her to seek proper help. My Dad didn’t find the proper help in time so I hope that your daughter does, and I hope she sees sense. My story is on here if you would like to share it with her, it may help her to realise she doesn’t want to go down the same track as my Father. I wish you all the best with your health too, I hope you all seek some comfort soon x

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