[jen77]

I am a new member to this site and am desperate for some support with regards to coping with the impact of my sons problems. He has battled with his problems since his teens and now lives with his girlfriend. However he contacts me daily and so does his girlfriend. I am their support but as this has gone on for so many years I feel worn down and it is effecting my health. I am so conflicted as his problems come from trauma in his early life and the sober clean son is a wonderful caring person. The drunk and drugged one a total monster.

[danman83]

Has he got help with his trauma? Maybe this will help if hasnt. Its seems to be alot. We take drugs or alcohol to block out bad parts of out life. Alcohol is a depressent and now many people know that and it makes you a lot worse.

If its effecting your health jen can you just not say, lets get some help for your trauma, and get help with the drugs. He will end up a lot better in the long run. And you need to start thinking of yourself. You cant do anymore

[jen77]

Yes he has had counselling both at the time we first found out and more recently. Also my husband and I cashed in savings some years back and paid for several months rehab. Things went well for awhile but he seems back to square one. Can’t talk too much with hubby as he has detached himself as he is older than me and has more health issues. As I said he can be such a nice person and was so good to his grandad in his last years but just feel we are loosing that person. I find myself now in tears most days in frustration. He lives an hours drive away with his girlfriend so just don’t know how I can do anything more.

[icarus-trust]

Hi Jen,

So sorry to hear about your son and how his drink and drug problems are affecting your health. If you would like to talk with someone who would understand how you are feeling please contact us at The Icarus Trust. We are a charity that provides support for people who are affected by the addictive behaviour of a friend or family member.

If you contact us we could put you in touch with one of our experienced trained people. May be talking with them would help you to feel supported.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

i hope you find this helpful. All the best.

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