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my sn whos 18 is now smoking hash all the time and going into massive outburts of verbal abuse , he is always swearing at me and demanding i do things and give him money , i left a very viliont relationship 6 years ago and at this time my oldest was taken into care for my own saftey as he had also got to the stage of drinking heavely and then flipping in me , so the decision was taken out of my hands by now my 18 yr old is starting to scare me as well he got into my face and was screaming and shouting at me , i replyed that he cant bully me he then started saying that i had wrecked his life and its my fault that he is the way he is , can anyione please offer advice ,

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i should have added im a sinle mum and i work 3 jobs , he throws up at me that i spend time with my firend who is my rock , and he gets jealous when ever i leave the house , im always say here waiting for the next out birts , i lost my brother to a dirty needle and 6 other family members within a space of 3 years , he dont remeber any other family members as he was too young , but he is always throwing things in my face like , its your fault as you have never been a mum , im at my wits end and dont know what to do for the best , i feel as if i have failed everyone and even the family who are no longer with me , i have no one to speak to as people are quick enough to judge and say that its my fault for staying in the relationship that i was in for so long , i know this didnt help the boys as they grew up but i moved 500 miles away from home when my husband turned on me and the police moved me to a new area , and thats where i met the ex and its eems to be one big thing after anther , and this is just the icing in the cake , i tryed my hardest with the biys but no one understands what its like unless they go through it them selfs

[icarus-trust]

Hi

Thank you for posting and sharing your story. I’m so sorry that you have had such a lot of stuff to deal with over such a long time. Its very sad that you have no one to speak to but if you get in touch with The Icarus Trust there are people who could help. We are a charity that gives support to people who are having to deal with a family member’s drug abuse. Please get in touch because you could talk to one of our ‘Family Friends’ who may be able to help you. They are experienced trained volunteers and would not judge you. It is a free service.
You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org
I really hope that you can get some support for yourself. Good luck.

[administrator]

Hi,

Thank you for sharing your story. Sorry to hear about your difficult situation. Adfam can help you by providing peer support and helping you connect with people of similar experiences. If interested, please, follow the link :

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Best Wishes,

Adfam

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Know one knows what it’s like unless they living it. Iv made bad choices in my life when my kids were younger and my 30 year old son is troubled and I blame myself but I did my best and can’t

be punished forever neither can u all we can do us be there when they ask for help it’s a lonley place sometimes as no one understands unless they living it. Iv had violence verbal abuse from my son for past 20years I love him so much but enough is enough and u will feel like that one day. I will never desert my son but sometimes u just want some piece. Don’t feel bad for wanting it to go away it never stops hurting

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