[fighter82]

So out of desperation I ended up here, my phones on private browsing and I’m home alone.

I need to just tell somebody, my husband is an alcoholic, heroin and methadone addict.

We are almost 40 and have been together 16 years and he has always liked a drink, for the past 2 years he has been on heroin. After us almost splitting up he sought the help of the professionals and began on the meth program a month ago.

Life has been hell and I am not able to confine in my family and I do not have any friends.

We began our relationship with 2 children each and only our 20 year old is still at home.

Yesterday we found some money had gone missing from my sons bedroom, the only person who could have taken it was my husband. We argued and it ended up with him pushing me around a bit and spitting in my face! He is not normally that type of person and shocked is an understatement!

Something clicked and after some phone bill checking I realised that he had contacted his dealer everyday.

I kicked him out realising he had not stopped taking heroin.

I received a phone call from him at 9pm claiming he had overdosed and had to use his syringe (that cancels out the opiates) and told me he was withdrawing badly and was very ill. I spent 20 mins extracting every last drop of green fluid from the empty meth bottles I had yet to return to the chemist. He came home took the meth and I let him sleep on the sofa.

We made love that evening.

This morning I woke up at 9 very upset, I cried for a while and text my husband, he began being understanding but fell asleep. I went downstairs crying and he woke up, threw his clothes on and said he was going to the chemist. I asked him to wait, I needed him, but he just went. He was a while so I began calling him, he accidentally pocket answered. I heard him and his friend and basically it confirmed the continued heroin abuse and that he was getting more.

I literally ran to his mates house and heard him say, the wife’s coming I’m going out the back, I then heard him taking the heroin.

I’ve kicked him out and don’t know what to do. The man I love is still inside but I can’t cope with the lies and the way the drugs change him.

If you made it this far then thank you, to even think one person has listened helps a lot. I’m crying writing this while drinking vodka so I hope it makes sense.

[danman83]

Hope your OK, how has he ended up on heroin in the last 2 year? And he’s 40 now. It just sounds like he has started late if that makes sense. Or he’s hid it longer from you.

I’ve got a cocaine problem and I am doing my best to stop. I’m 2 week clean 2day. Your husband has to want to stop for himself, you can’t force him. Robbing off the family isn’t good at all. Will he go in to rehab?

[fighter82]

Thanks for listening.

It had been a long road, he started on pills (ecstasy), moved onto cocaine and then heroin.

Well done for your 2 weeks clean, I lived with my husband having a coke problem for years. I understand “the demons that come out”.

He Claimed to want help, he pretended he wanted help, I listened, I cried, I supported him but he has been lying, stealing and continuing to use heroin.

He would not go to rehab, he is very clingy and would not cope without familiar people around, saying that surely if you wanted help you would do anything??

I feel so proud of your strength in fighting your habit and still finding the time to help others

[danman83]

Thanks for your comments I’ve still got a long way to go. It’s just all over the UK now. And so easy to get.

All I can suggest is think about yourself now and the kids, heroin is just one big slippery slope and you would Rob off your own gran for that stuff, sorry to be harsh but it’s true. It’s such an addictive drug and people will do anything to get it.

I’d just move on with your life, I know it’s hard when it’s some one you love, but if they are not going to put the effort in to quit, why should you

[fighter82]

It’s a demon you will have to fight for the rest of your life, just take each day as it comes and allow yourself to be proud of yourself. my husband says everyone does drugs these days, it a terrifying thought!

You’re so right in what you say but i feel like I should be fighting for him, I love him deeply. I tell myself every day “he’s not trying to hurt you he can’t help it” but like you say if he’s not willing to put the effort in!

[danman83]

He has got a point, u would be surprised, I new a friend of a friend who sold heroin and one of his customers was a doctor! Crazy.

I totally get you and you want to help him and love him which is great. Do what you feel inside is right. But make sure he puts the effort in, because it will just make you ill in the long run.

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