[jojob]

I am new to this group and to the whole subject of drugs.

My Husband confessed to me at the end of last week that he was a Cocaine addict.

He had been lying to me for a couple of years and saying that he was a gambling addict. I have spent so much money, bailing him out of the money he had supposedly borrowed from friends and gambled away. Now I know the real truth and have another nearly £2000 to find before the end of January. £1000 of that will need to be paid by Christmas.

I am trying my hardest to be as supportive and understanding as I can. He is due to be going to a ‘group meeting’ tomorrow night, which he is scared about attending and I will have to wait outside to make sure that he goes inside and stays there!

My main question for the members here is that he is now suffering from severe headaches and ‘sinus/nose’ pain, and he is obviously blowing his nose a lot and that is aggravating the problem.

What can I give him to stop the nose blowing and/or pain? Ibuprofen and paracetamol don’t seem to have any affect and I am loathed to give him my Codeine/Ibuprofen tablets every day for fear that he will get addicted to those too!

Any help will be gratefully accepted!

Thank you in advance.

[kikkiclark]

My husband had the same problem and unfortunately for him the only way to stop the headaches and runny nose is to stop doing coke, he went to rehab for a month and after a few days the headaches stopped and his nose/sinus pain get better, I know when he’s back on it because it comes back. He 100% needs to go to CA or narcotics anonymous and commit to the meetings, it will help you to set some boundaries for going forward. Happy to chat if you need any advice, I ive just finished a support course for families of addicts and it’s been really useful and empowering

[jojob]

Hi. Happy New Year!

My Husband spent a few weeks ‘clean’ then confessed on Christmas Eve that he had relapsed that day. Then again on New Year’s Eve. Then again today!

He never went to the meeting I mentioned in my original post, because we read the address wrong and we’re waiting outside of the church and not the hall alongside, (which actually had a pantomime being performed inside, so I am still not sure how a meeting was being held there too)! He has been speaking/contacting other people who informed him that the CA and NA meetings are very ‘religion-heavy’ and as an atheist, he is not keen on the idea and doesn’t feel that it will help him in the long run. However, between Christmas and New Year, he suggested going to the meeting this coming Friday. I just know that it won’t help him and he needs to explore other avenues, but I have absolutely no idea what else he can do. I am fast losing my patience with him, having never been addicted to anything, I don’t understand why he can’t just say “no” and walk away from the temptation to save our relationship. I can’t believe a single word he says anymore and spend my entire time wondering if he has used and not told me.

I hate not trusting him and just want this whole mess to go away……..

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