[nobodynows]

Hi everyone.

My world has changed over the last few days as I’ve discovered my son is a serious cocaine addict and has attempted suicide.

He feels totally worthless and sees no reason to be alive.

I’m totally frustrated at not being able to do anything as he refuses any help.

Devastated.

[margot]

The number for NA (Narcotics Anonymous) is on this website. Ring them. Find out where meetings are in your area. Get him to go. Go with him. My husband has been clean 3 years now through working the 12 step programme of NA. He initially only went to appease me, with no intention of stopping but he kept attending meetings and through the help he got in those meetings he has managed to stay clean. And become a better version of himself. Good luck. ????

[nobodynows]

Thanks very much Margo

[danman83]

Hi there, I hope your OK. I’m 2.5 months clean now from cocaine. So I can give you some help I hope.

So im 38, been on coke for 12 years. For roughly the last 7 years I’d say I’ve done everything to try and quit, councilling, hypnosis, self will and so on. And don’t get me wrong it worked for a few month or week. But cocaine addiction is like a devil on your shoulder.

It has massive side effects of depression and suicidal thoughts.

So basically I could finish using at 3am and by 4am I’m feeling suicidal. And can feel like this for days. It’s crazy why we choose to keep. Using when it makes us feel like this.

Last year I joined cocaine anonymous. It’s been the best thing I’ve ever done. I got a sponsor and I’m working the 12 steps. I phone other ex addicts each day which keeps me clean. I go to face to face meetings and I do zoom meetings. I’ve got a load new mates. My life is so much better, I’ve never felt happier.

And I work a good programme.

Now for your son to get better. He needs to want to quit for himself. You can’t force him. He needs to hit rock bottom. Which he sounds like he has. He needs to delete all dealers numbers, family and friends who use. Come of social media. Get a new number. Start doing new hobbies, walking, gym, reading can be anything he wants. A new healthy life style to get mentally strong. And get to a meeting. He can’t have alcohol again as well as this leads to coke.

He’s gonna hate his life right now. Because that’s what coke does to you. He needs to believe in himself and set some short term goals. And cut everything off that’s no good for him. He will get there if he puts the effort in. And I promise he will feel so much happier. That’s only a small amount of what I can say for now. Hope this helps. Feel. Free to ask me anything

[nobodynows]

Thanks so much for your reply.

It’s been very interesting to read and I will pass it on to him.

Take care and stay clean ????

[lindyloo]

Hi Nobody,

Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story. So sorry to read of your son’s situation with cocaine.

Margot and Danman83 have offered you some great advice.

My son is also a cocaine and alcohol addictions, but is currently in recovery thankfully.

Danman has pretty much covered all the advice, I just wanted to say this has also worked for my son.

Joined AA and CA groups, attends meetings, 12step programme with sponsor and the fellowship guys are so supportive.

He had to stop socialising with his usual mates and stop drinking.

Instead he meets them for meals, bowling . He can afford this now and he looks well.

We had 14yrs of hell in the past – but it IS in the past. I wanted you to know that sobriety is possible if he really really wants to get well.

Read the Theresa thread, it’s all mums with sons with addictions all supportive of each other too.

Most importantly take care of you wherever possible ❤️

Sending hugs

Lx

[nobodynows]

I’m hoping very much that he will find the help he needs and I think we are making some progress.

He’s going to spend sometime with a good friend who doesn’t live locally anymore and hopefully will benefit from that.

Thanks very much for your support.xx

[adam1234]

Yes I can totally relate to this story as I’m going threw exactly the same at the moment

[nobodynows]

I wish all the very best mate.

I hope it works out for you ????

[icarus-trust]

Thanks for sharing your story. I’m sorry to read about your son’s addiction. Its good that you have people to talk with on this forum but if you would like any more support please contact us at Icarus Trust. We are a charity that offers support to people dealing with addiction in their family because we know how tough this is. We have Family Friends who are trained and experienced who you could talk with. They would be supportive to you and let you know what other help is available for you.

You can get in touch on contact@icarustrust.org

All the best.

[nobodynows]

Thank you

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