[kim]

When will this end!

When do you start to relax, to trust again.

Our 30 year old son finally admitted last year that his got a coke habbit( the stuff that goes up the nose)

We’ve spent over £10000 in this last year paying rent and bill arrears and drug tabs..

Often get a call asking for £400 by the end of day..

We give it because we’re scared for him but at our witts end.

He’s started attending drug councilling… Well I think he is..

We’ve no money left. Our savings is gone .

So many things i want to know.. is there any other help out there?

Ps he’s lost his home and now lives with us .

I know he would rather not!

[icarus-trust]

Hi Kim,

I’m so sorry to read your post about your son’s drug habit and how badly it is affecting you. It must seem really tough but you are not alone and there is help out there.

I work for a charity called The Icarus Trust who try to support people like yourself who are dealing with a family member’s addiction. If you would like to contact us you could talk with one of our experienced people who would be able to answer your questions and tell you about what other help is available.

You can contact us on help@icarustrust.org or visit the website http://www.icarustrust.org

I hope this is helpful.

Good luck.

[dnanon]

Oh Kim, I really feel for you but just know that you are not alone in this situation. There are loads of us, parents, in a similar position to yourselves. Our son is 32 and in the past we have bailed him out, paid his mortgage, bills and drug debts. He did come back and live with us for a while and I have to admit it was really difficult as although he started in a drug rehabilitation programme a number of times he never stuck with it. He now lives with his gf as we helped him sell his house which resulted in him getting a large sum of money. He has hardly been in touch since. Anyway a couple of suggestions, see if there is a drug rehab service available in your area for your son. However, it is no use unless he wants to quit. You can also get some counselling for yourself as a parent. With regard to paying off his drug debts we stopped doing this as it felt like we were enabling him. I know it is tough love and you will worry about the consequences but tell your son you can no longer pay for his drug debts and he must think about this before he gets himself into a situation. These are just possible suggestions. Stay strong.

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