[david24]

I have known my friend K for 10 years and for part of that I was very fond of her, but we never had a relationship.

During that time I went off the rails (nothing physical) and now have a criminal record which will most likely be with me for life.

K has been supported for about the last 5 years buy an alcohol support person (Who I introduced her to) and and a council funded support worker, she was also a sectioned for a time.

Neither of the support people like me (because of crimes) and indeed have encouraged K to stay away from me, even suggesting (aledgedly) she phones 999 if she sees me. I have written a couple of letters to both of them extending the olive branch and explaining where I was when my crimes happened and and what my intentions are with K. Those letters work just ignored, didn’t even get an acknowledgement.

K and I do meet up occasionally but it would be so much better if you was able to be open with her workers. I’ll admit that I did enable her in the past, like many I thought I was doing the right thing, but that’s the past. Personally, I don’t drink.

I don’t see a way out of this because as much as I want to be able to explain myself to these workers I understand that their confidentiality obligations probably prevent them speaking with me, but with the right guidance Im sure I could be a big help to them – part of me feels so angry that they have spent 5 + years trying to help K but the alcohol is still there, give me a chance to help.

I know members can’t offer any real help because it is like walking down an endless tunnel, but writing this down for you guys has actually been quite therapeutic for me lol!

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