[anon72]

I understand you. I am 19 years old and for as long as I can remember my mum has been an Alcoholic. I am currently making the decision to move in with my boyfriend of 5 years because I can’t take being at home anymore but the guilt of leaving is eating me up. Like you I have tried and tried to help my mum and even she has tried to stop a few times but I guess it’s just so common for alcoholics to call back into old habits.
I understand your pain and I guess I don’t have much advice but I can tell you your not alone. Last night I told my mum nearly everything I’ve ever wanted to say but never have because I’ve always been too scared that she would try to kill herself if she heard the truth of how her addiction made me and my brothers feel. It felt good to get it out into the open but I also feel tremendous guilt. She didn’t drink today because of what I said and hopefully that is the solution. The harshness and rawness of what I said made my mum not want to drink today so now I am going to be there to praise and support this decision. Maybe that’s what you can do, lay out all your cards on the table be as open and honest as you can and don’t think about her feelings whilst doing so. Be selfish. Say exactly how you feel and all of your concerns and maybe this will motivate your mum. I hope everything is okay I see this was posted 2 weeks ago. Really just hope you know your not alone and whatever happens it is not your fault you can’t live your life in fear and worry, I know that feeling and i understand you.

[eddie123]

Hi there, this sounds like a very difficult situation for you and I am sorry. I know of a great charity that supports people like yourselves nationwide. The family support programme is all remote and they help many families a year. Please see link and fill in the referral and someone will endeavour to respond within 24 hours. https://adaptoxford.org.uk/the-icarus-programme/

They also have a free treatment programme for Addicts if your loved one wants the help, give them call or fill in the referral on their website.

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