[saintmich82]

Long story short, known a guy for a couple of years, we ended up developing feelings for each other earlier this year. We were both in long term relationships and unhappy with them, so we did the right thing and left them so we could be together. We’re both mid 30’s.

I’ve always known he had a past with drugs, going back many years ago when he was single, and totally trusted him with what he told me about all that. He’s also been known to struggle with depression from time to time, he took an overdose of anti-depressants about four months ago, and has also overdosed in the past.

Unfortunately the pressure of him getting kicked out by his ex, us trying to find somewhere to live urgently, and then me ending up in hospital having major surgery took it’s toll on us, and he left me the day after I got out of hospital. I was heartbroken.

Since then he’s been living with a friend of a relative, who has effectively turned into an enabler for him as she is into drugs. I bumped into him 3 weeks after he left me and found he was back on weed, and had done cocaine again for the first time in forever. He also drinks daily despite working night shifts, and spends his days off getting wasted.

We’re now sort of back in contact and he’s gone so far downhill I’m scared for his sanity, worried sick about him.

He’s on joints and bongs most days, and I know he’s taken cocaine again since. He’s told me he’s supposedly sorting things with his ex, in the job she is in there will be zero tolerance to him being back on drugs, but she seems to be tolerating it because she desperately wanted him back, or isn’t aware of the severity of what he’s getting up to. He’s still living with this other friend at the moment.

Six months ago I’d have known exactly how to handle him, how to talk him around, how to help him. Since our relationship, if I try to say anything I’m getting at him or having a go at him. I’ve been worried about him going off the rails since we split, now it’s all come true, and I’m at a total loss as to what to do. I still care about him so much, and it’s tearing me apart seeing him like he is now,

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