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Hello Nicola… know you posted a while ago so I am hoping you will be notified of this comment.

My Mother is still alive although I fear not for much longer. Like you I was always aware of my parents drinking every evening… as Mum got older she seems to have drank more and I noticed it became a problem around 8-9 years ago. She now cannot function without alcohol in her body. If she spends any time without it she gets withdrawal symptoms. All her benefits go on drink and cigarettes. I haven’t spoken to her since the beginning of December. Even knowing she was on her own for Christmas. I did get my Husband to take her presents and cards from us and the children and not even received a card for her grandkids… not even a thank you text, nothing. I am angry – as I have always been expected (by her) to be there as and when she wants… and I cannot do it. I know she is liasing with an alcohol nurse (whom she has on and off for the past 3-4 years) so I know she will never get better. I don’t think she wants to really… just over a year ago she was diagnosed with bowel cancer – most probably caused by the vodka and gin binges and no food. They had to stop chemotherapy treatment not long after surgery as I informed them of the severity of her drinking…

She has had mini-detox’s in hospital when she has been admitted with severe-dehydration and when she had surgery but has always gone back onto the drink full time. I don’t know what to do. I am not in contact with her – I cannot cope with her demands when I am – I have a young family to look after myself. But I am also feeling anxious as what if she dies before I get chance to have a clean relationship with her?! I will only do this once she is sober…

Thank you x

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