[addgg13]

Thank you for taking the time to message.

I will 100% continue to be sober. I lost my family unit and old life but there is no way I will let it take anything else.

I really hope that he can somehow turn it around and realise what he is doing. He should read these messages and try to understand what he is putting you through, what he has to loose and then the life that is to come if he throws it all away.

Yes, the regret is there with me constantly, along with huge amounts of guilt for my children not having their daddy living with them and being there for them as much as I should or could. I now realise, by reading these stories, the pain and hurt I put my ex wife through. She gave me enough chances but I wasnt well enough to see or realise what I was doing.

I took my eldest for his first bike lesson today so I’m focusing on positive things.

Take care

[addgg13]

Thank you for taking the time to message.

I know for a fact he loves you and that he is now influenced by the past and what has happened that has caused him to do this. You do deserve better but please know that he never intended on hurting you. It takes control and alters the mind and turns people into someone they are not but gradually so it’s very difficult for the person using to realise.

I lost my way and I honestly dont think I would have corrected myself by staying in the same situation. If any good has come from this, it’s that i am now sober and have no intention whatsoever on going back to the thing that ruined my life.

Yes we must concentrate on the present and the future because we can not change the past. It’s easier said than done though!

I have a very respectable job and am a decent person who unfortunately, cares a great deal about what others think of me which i hope in time changes some current perceptions of me.

My ex is happy i believe and has moved on. You will do the same for sure. Concentrate on yourself and other things will fall into place.

Take care

[addgg13]

My advice is that he needs to give up drinking. A huge task I know but this is what leads him to it.

I have kidded myself for years but I stopped drinking and therefore the other. I realised it too late. I’ve lost my wife and consider myself lucky to still see my children.

He needs to change his lifestyle which is a massive thing to do I know.

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