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Hi- could possibly be cocaine however I’m not one to say for definite as I’m only going by what I noticed with my other half.. any other signs that he is on something?
Give him Tough love! I was lied to for over a year by him and his mum about his addiction. I was always the one giving him tough love while his mum bailed him out.. it made it worse. I now do it my own way. Over 3 weeks ago he relapsed and gave his mum an excuse as to why he needed the money and she gave it to him because she thought he was going to get hurt. I told her not to how is someone suppose to stop if they know someone is going to always bail them out? They aren’t. It’s been 2 weeks now and he’s not touched it. Doesn’t sound a lot I know but being an addict for over 10 years and doing it every week I’m very proud of him.
There is nothing wrong with tough love because you’re doing it for him and his life. X
it’s now the 3rd week and he’s stayed away from cocaine. I know it doesn’t sound a long time but from doing it once a week locked in his room for 3 days I’m so proud! I was a little anxious start of the week because that’s when he normally relapses but I got past that feeling and I had nothing to worry about. He’s focused on getting fit, gym, personal training and is back to work 2nd full week no days off! 2-3 meetings a week. There is hope and I know it’s a long road for recovery but I’m starting to feel like I’m getting the love of my life back. Lime18- did you get to visit your son? A x
Yeah your messages are coming through lime18. I can’t imagine how you are feeling your sons in prison. However don’t be scared he’s your son. Look at it that This could be your chance to say what you need to say, I used to scream and shout from frustration but the last time I calmly said to him you know what I’m at that point where I’m going to walk, you either continue to do it end up on the streets, or you can kick yourself up the arse find some willpower and fight it together and he has surprised me.
Lime18 – I was thinking the same when reading all the posts. This world is a dangerous place everywhere you go it’s offered. I wouldn’t dream of doing any sort of drug.
In these circumstances it’s a mind field trying to get help was a nightmare unless you go private but doctors, emergency 111 couldn’t help they just directed me to FRANK..
Hi Millie, I’m really sorry to hear about your son.. and how long this message is!!
how long has he been doing it for? Have you had any help at all? Im going through the same with my boyfriend who’s also 29 hes a cocaine addict, been to rehab which didn’t do anything they had so much freedom it was ridiculous! Tried hypnotherapy and I even quit my job to take him out the country for a few months and it still didn’t help. I was lied to for near enough our whole relationship by him and his mum until may this year when he got that bad doing it every other week! He doesn’t do it socially on his own and I to fear about that call every single day he leaves for work. I’m against lying I’ve had to go against what I believe and lie to my side of the family so people don’t think badly of him. He avoids me like the plague once he’s done it, only a few weeks ago we change our tactics he used to run to his mums and he would hide there for a few days and I’d wait for him to come home. This time I went round there.. as soon as I rang the door bell he jumped out the back window and hid ontop of the shed and he was like a scared cat. He ran away and didn’t come back until 2am. We have a no cash rule in the house, he’s not allowed to take out cash unless I’m with him and it’s for our personal training as I make him come with me, I have a tracker on his car to make sure he goes to work and also on his phone. Since that night it was like he was at his lowest point he had ever been. I paid for another isolated rehab which he refused to go to, we have it on standby in case but he promised he would go to meetings, find a sponsor and give him credit where it’s due he has! At the age of 27 it should be the best years but I know deep down he can over come this and that’s one of the reasons I stayed because he’s not a bad person, he’s the sort of guy that brings me flowers at 7am and I’m sure neither is your son. I’d say keep fighting no matter how stressful or frustrating it may be because he needs you, your husband should try to understand look up videos of how the addiction damages part of their brain. Also buy some macadamia nuts and liquorice my mother in law researched and found that when they get the feeling they need to do cocaine it helps.. hope you replie xx
My boyfriends a cocaine addict and I’ve been told that they need to really hit rock bottom and lose things to realise they need help. They’ve got to want it. I struggled with my boyfriend for over a year, What you’ve done in my eyes is give him the push he needs!
I manage his finances, no cash nothing. I have been told that macadamia nuts and liquorice together works reduces the craving. Even though he’s out of the house still love him and don’t give up. I’m glad I didn’t I’ve seen a massive change in mine xx
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I’m really sorry to hear about your son, my boyfriend has a cocaine addiction and like you I felt that there was no help when we looked for it. We tried rehabs, hypnotherapy and even travelling to get him away from the awful people that sell them drugs but as soon as he got back he would go back to his old ways. As I’ve been told in order for them to realise that they have a problem they need to be at their lowest before they admit and start recovery. Has your son ever been to rehab at all or ever admitted he had a problem in the past? When you argue is this when he is intoxicated? How frequent does he do it may I ask? I know it’s very frustrating that he’s doing this and is aware he’s hurting himself and others but stick by him no matter what there’s been so many times where I’ve wanted to turn my back on my other half but after reading online watching videos about the addictions it changes your mind set to try and help them. Just never give up I’m so glad I haven’t. My other half is now attending meetings 3 times on a weekly basis got himself a sponsor and it feels like I’m starting to see the love of my life back. Don’t give up. Xx