NaNs what you have described is exactly the dilemma I feel that I am in. My husband has just lost his job due to drinking. He waited 6 weeks before telling me. He has finally admitted he has a problem and told the children. He says he is stopping and hasn’t had a drink for 2 days. But now I feel stuck. I want him to be proactive in getting help as I know he won’t get through this on his own but I don’t know how much I should push. He’s already getting annoyed and saying that I’m nagging ????