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So I’ve told him I do have an issue with the drinking as I don’t think it’ll help his recovery! He said he understands but it’s just social and not an issue but I don’t buy that, I think alcohol should be avoided in recovery! He said he’s been happy lately and hasn’t thought about it, and hates it when cocaine is bought up as he feels like he has to relive it ???? and just wants it out of his life!
I know he is very good with his phone and always deleted texts and calls from dealers when I knew he was doing it! If he is still doing it, the toilet would be the only place and I’m not sure where he would dispose of the wraps! I suppose he does go to the toilet more when he is drinking! But not in an obvious way!
I am tempted to get a drug test but he rarely forgets to flush so trying to think how I’d do the test. With his nose it’s just how snotty it is and when he blows so much snot comes and and some bloody snot! But I don’t know if that could be where he’s caused so much damage to his nose! It’s worn away the inside of his nose so he has caused damage that’s for sure, so maybe why it’s like that? I’m not sure! I could be paranoid, it’s just that when he drinks it’s similar symptoms to when he did coke, chatty, happy, smoking more etc but is that just the alcohol or is it cocaine. When he takes cocaine he isn’t overly obvious, it’s just talking loads, not eating and going to sleep late or struggling to get to sleep! Now when he drinks he doesn’t seem to eat loads, but does eat something! And he has been taking sleeping tablets before bed!
I’ve told him I’d like him to carry on with the meetings, he hasn’t turned his camera on or spoken yet, just listened in the two he has done
Also I don’t really know how to approach him about the subject as he is very sensitive when I talk about it, I just said I’d really like you to carry on with your meetings, and he’s being off with me now!
Thanks for replying Dan I really appreciate it! It’s so hard to talk to anyone that understands. I’m trying to encourage him doing more meetings but all I get is “I feel good at the moment so don’t feel I have too”
It’s so hard because I don’t know if he is or not still doing it, but I don’t agree with the drinking while he is trying to recover but he says it’s not a problem ????
So to show me he wanted to give up, he supposedly deleted all the numbers but before the last episode he had with coke I found out he had it saved under a different name, so could it be the same again? We are together a lot of the time atm with lockdown but he sometimes will pop out without me to the shops to get cigarettes but haven’t found any wraps anywhere. I don’t know if it’s me being paranoid but i know how hard it can be to give up and it seems he is dealing with it very well abit too good to be true! But when I say anything he says “I wouldn’t ever touch it again”
As for his nose yes it’s snotty a lot of the time and he has occasional nose bleeds and gets very sensitive when I mention that his nose has blood around it or running. I was wondering if it could be damage from using coke all those years but now I’m thinking it would be getting better!
I don’t know how I can test his urine really, I feel like I’m going crazy but I need to know!
Thanks for replying Dan I really appreciate it! It’s so hard to talk to anyone that understands. I’m trying to encourage him doing more meetings but all I get is “I feel good at the moment so don’t feel I have too”
It’s so hard because I don’t know if he is or not still doing it, but I don’t agree with the drinking while he is trying to recover but he says it’s not a problem ????
So to show me he wanted to give up, he supposedly deleted all the numbers but before the last episode he had with coke I found out he had it saved under a different name, so could it be the same again? We are together a lot of the time atm with lockdown but he sometimes will pop out without me to the shops to get cigarettes but haven’t found any wraps anywhere. I don’t know if it’s me being paranoid but i know how hard it can be to give up and it seems he is dealing with it very well abit too good to be true! But when I say anything he says “I wouldn’t ever touch it again”
As for his nose yes it’s snotty a lot of the time and he has occasional nose bleeds and gets very sensitive when I mention that his nose is bloody or running. I was wondering if it could be damage from using coke all those years but now I’m thinking it would be getting better!
I don’t know how I can test his urine really, I feel like I’m going crazy but I need to know!
Hi Dan, first of all well done! Keep going! My boyfriend decided enough was enough as he was suffering with depression and suicidal thoughts and finally realised it was ruining him. He has done 2 CA meetings and didn’t really like the religious part of it. He says that he doesn’t feel like he needs to do anymore meetings atm because he feels good.
As far as I’m aware, he hasn’t touched it since October last year, he had been using for 13 years on and off before. But he still has a runny nose, occasional nose bleeds and is drinking alcohol most days. I worry that he is secretly using? But don’t know if I’m being paranoid, how long does it take for your nose to heal?