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Hi Lou1312

Thanks for your reply!

I love him a lot and before this trusted him 1000% but now a feel a little trust has gone.

I know with his drinking its almost like peer pressure from his friends and a ‘lad culture’ and that he feels he needs to drink loads while he is out, he doesn’t know when to stop. Sometimes he can be out until 5am. I know from being out drinking with my friends I don’t know my limits and I don’t necessarily think about is it time to go home. So maybe is that just part of being young and having no responsibilities of having to go home at a reasonable time. I do feel like he has some self control though because he doesn’t go out every weekend, I know he’s not dependent on alcohol its usually after he has played football on a Saturday and if i’m in work he tends to go out because they all have a pint in the pub after a game and it just usually ends up with them all going out into town

After talking to him more I think he is willing to go and talk to someone but is scared. I think the big problem is more to do with his mental health and his coping mechanisms for it and I know that it needs to be his choice and I can’t force him as he has to be willing to help himself as there is only so much I can do and I feel that I do have the strength to walk away if things get bad

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