[alw847]

Thank you for the positive encouragement and for the insight. I do think he’s trying to go along a better/ different path so I am trying to be supportive and positive. I don’t want to be accusatory and criticizing when I do think he’s trying. I will definitely keep an eye out about what I saw.

[alw847]

Yes he’s started doing yoga for the pain and is trying acupuncture. I believe his doctor was the one who gave him opiates and Xanax for pain in the first place. I do know that he is trying alternative methods to control the pain though. Another reason I don’t want to seem accusatory when I do know that he is trying to feel better and make better choices. I just can’t get what I saw out of my head… and it still is eating at me even though I’ve tried to brush it off.

[alw847]

Hi, thanks for responding. I did tell him I was suspicious that he was smoking painkillers or heroin because I noticed his pupils dilated and he occasionally nods off. He didn’t act defensive or up in arms. He said yes he occasionally takes a painkiller or some promethizine at night if he’s in a lot of pain but he is not smoking heroin or pills. And he told me he was glad I said something instead of it it eating at me. It hasn’t come up again since. I didn’t want to harp on it and ruin the trip.

I don’t even know how to go about saying more. Do I say “I went in your bag and this is what I saw.” Ask him directly what is is? Rather than beating around the bush? I want to bring it up in a way that is not accusing/ offering help and not making him shut down or deny further. I want him to admit what is going on and if he wants help I want to figure out how to get that for him. If he doesn’t want help I do not want to stay with him. But I don’t want to present it as an ultimatum. Hopefully that makes sense.

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